Have you ever changed crappy sex into awesome sex? With the same partner? (PG-13) (wife, how to)
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Whenever I see people posting that bad sex can be fixed by communication, I kind of figure they don't know what they are talking about. It's not like good sex involves learning specific physical skills. It's about mindset and preferences being compatible.
Whenever I see people posting that bad sex can be fixed by communication, I kind of figure they don't know what they are talking about. It's not like good sex involves learning specific physical skills. It's about mindset and preferences being compatible.
At least, for me. Is your experience different?
I agree.
The mindset is a HUGE factor. It's kind of like once you KNOW it's bad, it's gonna stay bad because it's in your head. Then you become supremely aware of the badness and that makes you even WORSE.
Whenever I see people posting that bad sex can be fixed by communication, I kind of figure they don't know what they are talking about. It's not like good sex involves learning specific physical skills. It's about mindset and preferences being compatible.
At least, for me. Is your experience different?
In my expeirence, first sexual encounters are always more or less bad. Im a LTR kind of person (i ve been in LTR for most than 12 years, one 5 y/o relationship, other 7 y/o relationship and now im in a new one). With all of them, and also the amazing steamy story i had last year (wich wasnt an official relationship, but i was still with the guy for 8 months) my first encounters were more or less bad. Ok, save the steamy relationship in where we had crazy chemistry, all the other 3 were underwhelming.
You CAN fix them. Talking, communicating, you can take those awkaward first 3 or 4 encounters (sometimes it takes more, sometimes less) and transform them in amazing sex. This has been my experience.
In my expeirence, first sexual encounters are always more or less bad. Im a LTR kind of person (i ve been in LTR for most than 12 years, one 5 y/o relationship, other 7 y/o relationship and now im in a new one). With all of them, and also the amazing steamy story i had last year (wich wasnt an official relationship, but i was still with the guy for 8 months) my first encounters were more or less bad. Ok, save the steamy relationship in where we had crazy chemistry, all the other 3 were underwhelming.
You CAN fix them. Talking, communicating, you can take those awkaward first 3 or 4 encounters (sometimes it takes more, sometimes less) and transform them in amazing sex. This has been my experience.
First-time awkwardness is completely different from straight-up bad sex, though.
Once you get over the jitters/nerves/self-consciousness/getting to know you, if what is left is continually, consistently bad, it cannot be fixed because you just are not a good match. It becomes in itself a turnoff.
Whenever I see people posting that bad sex can be fixed by communication, I kind of figure they don't know what they are talking about. It's not like good sex involves learning specific physical skills. It's about mindset and preferences being compatible.
At least, for me. Is your experience different?
well the communication can help, but it's no cure. There are just certain physical traits that are ideal for a fit. When you see it, you know there is good potential. As long as that potential is met, communication can help detail the rest. However, you are going to have it happen, where the guy has the perfect one, and because for whatever reason he has no clue how to work it, it's cowgirl time in order to have fun.
Whenever I see people posting that bad sex can be fixed by communication, I kind of figure they don't know what they are talking about. It's not like good sex involves learning specific physical skills. It's about mindset and preferences being compatible.
At least, for me. Is your experience different?
FINALLY a CD thread that is interesting, unique, never been done before, and sure to be educational. For that alone you get rep points from me.
From my own experience as a guy, I have not been able to turn crappy sex into awesome sex with the same partner. Mainly because I don't stick around long enough with any woman who is horrible in bed. With that being said, I think anyone CAN make it happen, but to do so you would have to have a willing and able partner. Someone who WANTS to please and is honest and open about what she likes. Has to put things in a positive way as in saying things like "I like it when you do..............to me" instead of the negative "I don't like it when you...........". Be open, positive, interested, and most of all WILLING to satisfy your partner. If you have these things than YES you can turn boring crappy sex into awesome sex.
FINALLY a CD thread that is interesting, unique, never been done before, and sure to be educational. For that alone you get rep points from me.
Aw, pshaw!
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Be open, positive, interested, and most of all WILLING to satisfy your partner. If you have these things than YES you can turn boring crappy sex into awesome sex.
But is someone with those traits bad in bed in the first place?
My experience is that bad sex comes from people who prefer the kind of sex that I think is crappy -- emotionally detached, not sensual, looking for the quickest route to orgasm, uncreative, not aroused by their partner's pleasure. They think the kind of sex I like is too messy!
Honestly can't say I ever had bad sex. If you truly care / love each other , proper communication can usually take care of any problem.
My X wife is a prime example. She was 18 very inexperienced when we met , pretty uptight about sex. She came a long way in a short amount of time. I took it on as a challenge and it paid off.
Also , my advice to never tell someone they are bad a sex,
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