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When I was (very briefly) on POF I bumped my age up by 3 years to avoid being matched with the younger college party types... There's an abundance of them on there (in the early twenties crowd), but I don't drink/party, am very mature for my age to start with, am doing a post grad program, have a career, and my own vehicle/condo etc etc. I wanted to be matched with people a few years older who were more settled in their lives like I was, not living in a frat house somewhere. I stated in my profile that I was 3 years younger and no one cared. Nothing came of things romantically, but I did make some great friends. I think it's only a problem if the person is being deceptive about it (ie not revealing it in their write up) or is much older/younger than they are claiming (like by 10 years or something crazy). I wouldn't have done it at all if there wasn't such a disparity between lifestyles of early and late twenty-somethings, and what most are looking for relationship-wise. Sue me.
What on earth are you complaining about then?? You do come across as bitter and angry still, so it really did sound to me like you were suffering in some respect. Glad to be wrong about that.
I'm thinking on how it was for me online. I don't want daddies to contact me, I asked them not to but they did. I deserved to find what I wanted. I did find what I wanted and everyone should know what they want. I was suffering online because too many bottom feeders.
Women should also have the life they want but guess what? doesn't happen that way. Older men do have a higher risk of defect. It is definitely selfish for a man to judge a woman based on her age and his perceived ability to have kids. What if she can't have kids?
Of course it bothered me, why should I, as a single never married childless woman have to have bottom feeder men because the quality of men at my level are going younger? I know I'll probably never have biological kids, a 40 year old man needs to be realistic about that as well. Most of them will fail as finding someone and that means both the older women they rejected and the older men will all be single.
For the same reason that younger men have to lower their standards when women their own age are pursuing more mature, successful men. The men are being plenty realistic, and the facts simply happen to be that older (decide for yourself what the definition of that is) single, childless men have more options than women of the same age. Just because you don't fit their desirability model doesn't mean it's not realistic. That's one of the hard lessons that men learn about themselves at a younger age.
People want what they want. If someone is more in demand, they can afford to be more restrictive about what they want. Quality men at your age are in quite high demand (especially compared to women at the same age), and therefore have a bit more freedom when it comes to their choices, just as younger women do. It's simply one of those gender-specific perils out there.
I'm thinking on how it was for me online. I don't want daddies to contact me, I asked them not to but they did. I deserved to find what I wanted. I did find what I wanted and everyone should know what they want. I was suffering online because too many bottom feeders.
For the same reason that younger men have to lower their standards when women their own age are pursuing more mature, successful men. The men are being plenty realistic, and the facts simply happen to be that older (decide for yourself what the definition of that is) single, childless men have more options than women of the same age. Just because you don't fit their desirability model doesn't mean it's not realistic. That's one of the hard lessons that men learn about themselves at a younger age.
People want what they want. If someone is more in demand, they can afford to be more restrictive about what they want. Quality men at your age are in quite high demand (especially compared to women at the same age), and therefore have a bit more freedom when it comes to their choices, just as younger women do. It's simply one of those gender-specific perils out there.
WRONG! Men who are older are not in MORE demand. Why this myth keeps going around is something I don't get. First off, not all younger women are dating older men most date men their age. This idea that younger men are not in demand is a lie. Second, it is realistic to expect someone LIKE YOU. That means a middle aged man can expect a middle ages women etc. It's not realistic for a man to think he has whatever he wants and women have to settle.
WRONG! Men who are older are not in MORE demand. Why this myth keeps going around is something I don't get. First off, not all younger women are dating older men most date men their age. This idea that younger men are not in demand is a lie. Second, it is realistic to expect someone LIKE YOU. That means a middle aged man can expect a middle ages women etc. It's not realistic for a man to think he has whatever he wants and women have to settle.
The fact that you're trying to qualify what is "realistic" just proves my point. A middle aged man can expect a middle aged woman and then some. But you want to believe that's not true. If it weren't true, we wouldn't have middle aged women complaining that there are no quality men their age. There are, but they have more options than you do.
The fact that you're trying to qualify what is "realistic" just proves my point. A middle aged man can expect a middle aged woman and then some. But you want to believe that's not true. If it weren't true, we wouldn't have middle aged women complaining that there are no quality men their age. There are, but they have more options than you do.
Oh really? how would you know they have more options than me? A middle aged man can not expect anything but a middle aged woman, especially if he's average. If he's overweight or underemployed? He has less options than a middle aged woman in shape. Actually I see more men complaining about quality woman than the opposite.
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You do come across as bitter and angry still, so it really did sound to me like you were suffering in some respect. Glad to be wrong about that.
