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I feel like I always have the same two concerns when I'm trying to meet guys:
1. I don't know when/if I'm being too forward
2. I don't know when I should just let him fade away (implying there is disinterest)
I had a post here the other day about giving someone in my class my number. Basically, on Monday I approached this guy in the library (who is in my class), we talked again on Tuesday and I asked for his number in case I had questions on homework/projects whatever. Really, I just have a crush on him and want to get to know him more. I missed class today and texted him asking if I missed anything important. We exchanged a few messages back and forth and then he stopped replying. My question is, how do I handle this situation? Do I just let everything happen naturally and try not to think too much. I just don't want to initiate any more interactions with him because I approached him first and asked for his number (and texted him).
So is it safe to assume he thinks I'm interested or do you think he's confused by my advances? I just don't want it to be weird or awkward, I want us to at least be friends.
It's too early for him to know anything. You haven't done anything to indicate "romance," and you're still just acquaintances.
Try for another in-person interaction. Sit by him in class or something. The next step should be going out for coffee sometime or lunch after class .. something like that. Hopefully he will initiate SOMEthing.
It probably will get weird at some point because you already know you like him. If he isn't interested, it will be awkward.
It's too early for him to know anything. You haven't done anything to indicate "romance," and you're still just acquaintances.
Try for another in-person interaction. Sit by him in class or something. The next step should be going out for coffee sometime or lunch after class .. something like that. Hopefully he will initiate SOMEthing.
It probably will get weird at some point because you already know you like him. If he isn't interested, it will be awkward.
It will be weird for me because I know I like him? I don't really understand that
It will be weird for me because I know I like him? I don't really understand that
Interacting with a person you are romantically interested in who does not have a romantic interest in you is awkward, especially when they know you like them and they don't reciprocate much.
It's already a little awkward between the two of you as a result of your feelings for him. If you make a more direct move (which there's nothing wrong with doing) and he does not show interest, then it will be more awkward.
I agree with the statement that it will be hard to be just friends but that's not necessarily a bad thing. If you're 'just friends' with this guy hoping that you'll eventually start dating, then I'd claim that you're not just friends in the first place.
You don't know for a fact that he isn't interested, as some guys are not that aggressive in initiating and picking up on cues from women. You may want to be more direct (ask him to meet up, etc.) You don't have much to lose.
If you're making more of the moves with him, i.e. interacting, flirting, etc. than he is, then it's time to move on.
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