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I never heard of any 3 date rule. I wait until I'm ready. It's been a long time since I've been on the market. I'm married now, so maybe my comments don't count. But, when I was dating, I'd wait until I was sure the guy was right for me. I don't have time for games. I don't sleep with someone because someone else said it's time. Relationships last longer when they are not rushed. Sex is a very intimate thing and can ruin a relationship if it's not done correctly (too rushed, not actually ready, etc.). You don't owe your friend anything other that kindness. When it's time, it's time. If both of you feel like it's time, then go ahead. If there is any feeling of guilt afterwards, then the two of you can work it out then. If the both of you feel comfortable about it, then great, it's time. Don't have sex if you think there's some rule about when it's time. It's all about you and him and the feelings between you.
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Yeah, but many advise that if you have sex a guy too early, he will think you are a sl-t, not a "challenge", and not relationship material. Many advocate making him wait, even to the extent of no sex until commitment.
It seems the general consensus on when to have sex with someone you're dating is after the third date.
What if you started dating someone you already knew?
My case:
There's a guy I've known from my social circles/special interest club for about 3 years. We didn't speak much for the first two years; we'd see each other a few times a month at gatherings and exchanged hellos and casual conversation. One year ago we started chatting more and exchanged numbers. We texted sporadically, talked about hanging out, but didn't actually "go out" one-on-one for the first time until 2 weeks ago.
So since this is a guy that I was already acquainted with and have seen over 30 times in social gatherings and joked around/conversed with, do the rules on when to have sex differ?
I understand the 3 date rule applies partly because it would be awkward to sleep with someone you'd just met. I wouldn't be comfortable sleeping with someone I'd only seen twice. But in this case, I've known the guy for a long time, even though we were just acquaintances and not dating.
Note: I am 30 and he's 31.
NO! don't listen to them. STICK TO THE RULES! or you will get us all in trouble.
Its 3. Three dates, not 1 not 2, not 4. Three, always three.
It seems the general consensus on when to have sex with someone you're dating is after the third date.
What if you started dating someone you already knew?
My case:
There's a guy I've known from my social circles/special interest club for about 3 years. We didn't speak much for the first two years; we'd see each other a few times a month at gatherings and exchanged hellos and casual conversation. One year ago we started chatting more and exchanged numbers. We texted sporadically, talked about hanging out, but didn't actually "go out" one-on-one for the first time until 2 weeks ago.
So since this is a guy that I was already acquainted with and have seen over 30 times in social gatherings and joked around/conversed with, do the rules on when to have sex differ?
I understand the 3 date rule applies partly because it would be awkward to sleep with someone you'd just met. I wouldn't be comfortable sleeping with someone I'd only seen twice. But in this case, I've known the guy for a long time, even though we were just acquaintances and not dating.
Note: I am 30 and he's 31.
There are no rules. If you need rules, you're not an adult yet.
Yeah, but many advise that if you have sex a guy too early, he will think you are a sl-t, not a "challenge", and not relationship material. Many advocate making him wait, even to the extent of no sex until commitment.
Maybe it's just me, but I don't want anything to do with a guy whom the word **** is of any use for.
I would wait at least a year, two - three dates is crazy imo, thats like a couple weeks
Americans sure get intimate in a hurry? I wouldnt even hold hands in public after three dates
people that have sex after three dates must have a very high number of sexual partners?
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