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This is a new trendy thing where married couples terminate their vows, but unlike a divorce, they remain friends (at least act civil with each other). In the case of this one couple (click on link), they still live in the same house, have separate bedrooms, have their same joint account, but they are free to date others.
It doesn't have to be exactly like their version, but you get the point. Do you know anyone that has uncoupled? Is this a good idea or just a passing fad.... is it too much to expect of people when they reach that point?
One other thought, if there are children in the house, I wonder how they will feel about mom and dad dating others? Probably best not to bring the dates home.
A couple I have known for many years, and was once quite friendly with have this arrangement. The hitch is that the husband found out that she had been having little mini affairs when she went periodically to visit her sick parents, and then after a some months she took a vacation of a month and through some stupid FB postings by others and her own carelessness it all came out.
She steadfastly denied that she had been doing this, even when confronted with all the evidence. But at that point proposed an uncouple-but-live-as-roommates solution. On the surface it works, as both she and her ex-husband work and the apartment is big enough for separate sleeping arrangements; but the fact that she is still lying about having been sleeping around has made her an object of contempt on his part and on the part of her two children in their early twenties. One of these lives at home too.
Neither one dates in the town where they live. I expect that within a couple of years she will just remove herself entirely from here and go back to where she came from. Perhaps it would work better if it had been a mutual agreement they had worked out before the poop hit the propeller.
From what I've seen in some older family members, I think this is more common than we might think, especially after the kids have left home. They might not call it 'uncoupling,' and they might not actively date others, but all the other signs of a drifting apart are there, even though they're still under the same roof.
I know a couple they were married more than 22 years but at the end they made their marriage to open relationship. Every thing do together they sleep together too have sex too but date others too. As they say since they have given the freedom to each other they live much happier than before.
This approach mostly seems to be about not having to give up joint assets/remaining legally married for financial reasons.
I know several couples who divorced amicably; it's possible to not have an ugly split when terminating a marriage. All this is is ending a marriage in name only, not legally. Were I a single person, it's pretty unlikely that I would consider starting a relationship with somebody who is still legally married and lives with the spouse, but has a verbal agreement where they are "uncoupled."
It's not for everybody...but it may work for some.
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I'm right with you! Why would this seem like a good idea. Wow!
