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Simple question for single heterosexual women. You don't even have to post explanations or anything - just click "yes" or "no". (I got the idea for this question from another thread in which I've been engaged.)
Consider a man who was rich enough that you didn't have to work, who told you that he did not want you working - instead, he wanted you to do whatever you had to do to maintain your beauty, your physical fitness, your figure, etc... and satisfy him sexually (assuming he had normal sexual desires). You are compatible with him personality-wise and physically attracted to him. He is attracted to you as you are and does not demand that you change your looks. He says he will give you a large amount of money to spend as you please, and he won't care what you spend it on as long as it's legal. Essentially you can have any "thing" your heart desires. Everything about the relationship looks good and there are no warning signs. He says that he is not the type to leave his wife for a younger woman when she gets "old"... but he will still want her to keep up her appearance so she continues to look really good for her age. He has specifically said that he will not demand plastic surgery, but his expectation is that you will always do whatever you can to keep your figure, your hair style, your style of dress, etc. as close to "the same as it is today" as possible.
He's basically perfect for you in every way. But to be with him, you have to be a "trophy wife" and not a "career woman" or even a "working woman".
Would you want to marry such a man?
He's not perfect in every way if he's shallow. Booh.
I do all that stuff now (maintain my health and looks, etc) don't have a boyfriend so I am not satisfying anyone but I could add that in easy (most of my evenings are spent reading or watching TV... I can make time). AND I work full time and do volunteer work. The lifestyle described in the OP sounds really, really boring. I've been there when my ex husband got new orders, we moved and I had to find new work again (the period of unemployment used to drive me crazy with boredom).
There is a reason so many housewives in the 1950s 1960s were into drugs/ "mother's little helper."
Same here.... I'm not a career woman, but I'd need more mental stimulation than just keeping up my appearance. And I say that as a girly girl who likes fashion, mani-pedis, makeup, etc.
I don't really want to be someone's pet, which is what the OP sounds like. It's the dynamic and stated terms which are disturbing. I know women who are housewives and keep up their appearance, but it's not under those kinds of terms, and they actually take care of the home. They are still partners with their spouse, not kept-women who exist for the man's pleasure.
This is an amusing scenario...it's also refreshing that almost all comments lean towards not putting up with being a trophy wife.
Now with that said, in all my years of growing up those type of women have always been around. We called them "gold diggers". It's a business arrangement that has expiration date.
As much as I would like to have all the bells and whistles of what is being offered, the cost of that would be my soul and my self worth. Not an even exchange!
I already maintain myself...that's kind of a given in any relationship so I wouldn't be doing anything out of the ordinary.
He'd give me money to spend how I please? So I could donate it then, correct? Start a charity with it? Help out the animal shelter, women's shelters, schools, families in need, etc....hell sign me up!
And it sounds like I wouldn't have to cook or clean so other than workout and get myself ready for the day I'd have lots of free time to volunteer?
Sounds like a decent arrangement to me. I LOVE my job, but I don't define myself by the hours I put in at work or my paycheck. And with a little financial backing I could probably do more good in the community
I already maintain myself...that's kind of a given in any relationship so I wouldn't be doing anything out of the ordinary.
He'd give me money to spend how I please? So I could donate it then, correct? Start a charity with it? Help out the animal shelter, women's shelters, schools, families in need, etc....hell sign me up!
And it sounds like I wouldn't have to cook or clean so other than workout and get myself ready for the day I'd have lots of free time to volunteer?
Sounds like a decent arrangement to me. I LOVE my job, but I don't define myself by the hours I put in at work or my paycheck. And with a little financial backing I could probably do more good in the community
The question is: would a man with that mindset even want someone with your mindset?
Because what you're talking about is something close to a career.
I am not career-minded and would love to not work a secular job, but I too would put my time/energy into volunteering (which I already do). I would want someone who appreciates that, not someone who just wants a trophy wife to maintain her looks and doesn't care if she cultivates her mind or spirit or contributes anything of value to the world besides being his living blow-up doll.
Regardless if it's a guy or a gal.
I think one shouldn't live a lifestyle that they can't afford themselves.
If you rely on others to provide you, then once that person cuts you off, you will have nothing.
And when you are so used to the "good" life, you will be willing to give up everything, including your dignity in order for the other party to continue to provide you.
I prefer to have an equal financially independent relationship.
Regardless if it's a guy or a gal.
I think one shouldn't live a lifestyle that they can't afford themselves.
If you rely on others to provide you, then once that person cuts you off, you will have nothing.
And when you are so used to the "good" life, you will be willing to give up everything, including your dignity in order for the other party to continue to provide you.
I prefer to have an equal financially independent relationship.
Yeah.. I notice that a lot and question.. especially the really beautiful elderly food sample ladies at Costco. God bless their hearts, but sometimes I question "How did ya end up here??" I'm friends in passing with some of them, and sometimes, I wonder..
Lesson learned: You need to learn to take care of yo self cus nobody else will.. at the end of the day when *knock on wood- anything can happen. Your loved ones won't always be there even if they want to support you. That is the harsh reality...
OP, you could have greatly simplified the question by just asking, "Ladies, would you like to be a sex slave for a creepy, controlling, youth-obsessed rich dude?"
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