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I'm 22 so around you and your bf's age, I started dating my ex when I was 18 and we did a lot of talk about our future, but guess what!? He's my ex!
You can and you might talk about the future but that doesn't make it concrete. Most 23 year old guys don't have one single thought about marriage (especially with a 19 year old). Your boyfriend sounds like he has a lot on his plate with working multiple jobs and this is probably what preoccupies his mind most days.
A good way to get things into perspective for you is to compare his current behavior with his behavior 2 years ago. Was he always this reserved in sharing his thoughts, opinions, wants, desires, dreams, goals, etc with you? If he was like this 2 years ago, then he's being pretty consistent with who he is and its you that's just noticing.
Either way you haven't even entered your 20s, you have time don't get hung up on the little things. If he treats you right, respects you (not telling you about going to Bingo is not a big deal [out clubbing, different story] but he shouldn't have to tell you he's going to bingo, I mean my God its BINGO! ), you generally have a good time with him then you should be happy!
He didn't say anything about your change to the job with the weird hours, but behind your back, he told your mom he didn't know what came over you to do that?
Not good, OP. Not a good sign at all. This person doesn't know what loyalty is. And he especially doesn't appreciate or understand the value of direct communication. This doesn't bode well, I have to say. A long-term relationship with this guy isn't in the cards, IMO.
You're 19 years YOUNG. It sounds like this is your future if you stay with this guy.
Why don't you have a little talk with him and let him know that this is not working for you?
Live a little, go to school, travel, have fun and meet some other people out there in the big world. You're too young to be locked into a dull, one-sided relationship like this one.
So what? We can not control when we will meet the person we decide we want to share our path in life with. And when we do - we have to evaluate our life in that light.
19 is a time when many life decisions and courses in life are being chosen - and the OPs wish to reflect her feelings for this man in those decisions is made _more_ important by her current age. Not less so.
you are 19 he is 23 just take step at a time, you both are way too young to think about settlements or future plans. Don't rush as the other comments says.
So what? We can not control when we will meet the person we decide we want to share our path in life with. And when we do - we have to evaluate our life in that light.
19 is a time when many life decisions and courses in life are being chosen - and the OPs wish to reflect her feelings for this man in those decisions is made _more_ important by her current age. Not less so.
I met my husband on my 18th birthday
HOWEVER, it was years before we were emotionally ready too "share our path in life".
It is the rare teenager that makes all the right choices and has all the necessary maturity to chart a life long course with another human being.
But thanks again for following all I write so closely. Your attention continues to flatter
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