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Does anyone take serious consideration regarding religion, spirituality, and morals when it comes to long term relationships? Is this even something you consider when evaluating if someone might be good long-term material?
Now I'm not advocating someone that necessarily stays in church day and night but at least being on the same page when it comes to how you conduct yourself. We all know practicing a religion or just going to church does not automatically make you a good person. There are bad people that occupy pews every Saturday/Sunday and are attending church for their own motives.
If you do not share the same morals/spirituality, Where is the system of checks and balances exist in a relationship?
Your religion dictates not to lie or present yourself falsely to another and your partner says hey,anything goes.
Your religion dictates infidelity is not permitted in your marriage. Your partner believes what he/she doesn't know won't hurt him/her.
Your religion dictates to do unto others as you would have them do unto you. You have a kind loving spirit with a giving nature for the needs of your partner. Your partner will lie and use anyone to get what they want and takes without consideration for anyone's needs besides their own.
What are your thoughts on the importance of spirituality/religion/morals when evaluating a potential long term relationship?
They are quite important for me. I'm Hindu and we do have strict religious policies to follow.
Now, at a personal level I'm ok having a GF from any religion. But as far as marriage is concerned, religious/moral compliance plays a big role because when one marries another person, they also develop closer connections with the family.
When 2 families cant agree upon many common points, then there are many issues that arise. Though the married couple is happy, both families who don't like being with each other force them to separate. There is a lot of external pressure in such a scenario, though internal forces agree. But then again, if your heart is strong (and not weak like mine), then its possible to fight by your SO's side in the name of love against family desires and religious compliance.
Last edited by Adi from the Brunswicks; 11-29-2014 at 08:34 AM..
I greatly value someone with very similar and high values and ethics, but completely avoid anyone with strong religious convictions. IMO, some religious people have a skewed moral code that allows them to view or treat some groups unethically. Also, as a Buddhist/atheist, I prefer someone who has a very relaxed view of spirituality, and is preferably atheist, agnostic, etc. I've happily dated people with relaxed religious views if they do not proselytize or attempt to change my views.
Does anyone take serious consideration regarding religion, spirituality, and morals when it comes to long term relationships? Is this even something you consider when evaluating if someone might be good long-term material?
Now I'm not advocating someone that necessarily stays in church day and night but at least being on the same page when it comes to how you conduct yourself. We all know practicing a religion or just going to church does not automatically make you a good person. There are bad people that occupy pews every Saturday/Sunday and are attending church for their own motives.
If you do not share the same morals/spirituality, Where is the system of checks and balances exist in a relationship?
Your religion dictates not to lie or present yourself falsely to another and your partner says hey,anything goes.
Your religion dictates infidelity is not permitted in your marriage. Your partner believes what he/she doesn't know won't hurt him/her.
Your religion dictates to do unto others as you would have them do unto you. You have a kind loving spirit with a giving nature for the needs of your partner. Your partner will lie and use anyone to get what they want and takes without consideration for anyone's needs besides their own.
What are your thoughts on the importance of spirituality/religion/morals when evaluating a potential long term relationship?
I want someone who's similar to me in terms of spirituality. I'm not religious, and I don't want someone religious. In my most ideal world- someone who was raised in a strict devout religion like me and opposes it now (perhaps not all aspects, just the fascist elements), but appreciates how they were raised.
I'm an atheist but I don't care about it really. I'll date causally religious woman, but I don't think I could date the type that goes to church every week and lets "God" dictate their actions. Most people don't know I'm a atheist, I don't advertise it. It's just how I was raised and what I believe. I don't care about politics either, unless someone is a super ignorant redneck.
So long as you're a decent human being I don't care what you believe, just don't be all crazy about it. =)
I'm not sure that religion and ethics are always closely related. The existence of a God is one thing; ethics another. Ethics based on authority or metaphysics, and not on experience, do not appeal to me. Beliefs in the supernatural, by themselves, do not bother me, at all, as long as they are not tied to ethical systems. I can certainly live with the Hindu faith. I suspect there are other faiths for which i could say the same thing.
As far as a partner is concerned, I don't want religious or political beliefs to come between us. We can converse about ethical beliefs, as long as they are not based on religion or metaphysics.
I don't think religion would have any influence on me when choosing a partner, but moral compatibility definitely would.
Two people can share more or less the same moral values while practicing different religions so what church someone goes to has no impact on my judgements
Religion and morality all come down to values. No matter what your religious affiliation (or lack thereof), values are very important. They don't have to be exactly the same, but the core values have to be pretty close....like 80% IMO.
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