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As someone who has worked in the bar/restaurant industry in a long time, I am always a bit amused by the stereotypes. It makes me wonder what sort of bars people are going to. There's a whole lot in between a meat market club and a local dive.
Women almost always travel in packs to social venues like bars and clubs. It is difficult to pursue them in this scenario, but not absolutely impossible. My best results usually came from active, crowded rooftop bars near the end of the night. By that time, most people are socially lubricated and open to talking to strangers that approach them.
I still prefer common interest social groups and co-ed sports leagues for this type of activity. Most people are there because they are trying to meet new people. I met a couple of girls last night at a Meetup in fact. One added me on Facebook this morning.
Errr...OP, when most people attend social events and venues, they do so with other people that they know...friends, their SO, colleagues, etc. They're meant to be social, after all. There are those who go out alone, but they are not the norm. That's how it's always been and I don't see that changing anytime soon, if ever. Get used to it.
That includes most popular bars...especially the loud ones and the happy-hour-friendly ones. Those types of venues are better suited to groups, especially those that are outgoing and extroverted. You might find more solo people in more low-key bars, especially during the "after work" timeframe. (Although I agree with skywalker that there are better places to meet decent new people.)
Seems to me that you're just afraid and are making excuses to avoid those women.
That is how the things are unfortunately. It is even hard to find genuine friends anywhere. Almost everybody seems to be in a hard to break in clique.
My advice. Shine out there. Get involved in some community programs. Help poor, animals. Maybe design something like a service or app that will help unfortunate people? Then get media to cast some light on your generous activity for a good PR. People will then start recognizing you and you will start to attract the right kind of people including women. No competition from other men in bars or online dating website and you will have an interesting story to tell your friends and future kids how you met your wife before you got married.
That is how the things are unfortunately. It is even hard to find genuine friends anywhere. Almost everybody seems to be in a hard to break in clique.
My advice. Shine out there. Get involved in some community programs. Help poor, animals. Maybe design something like a service or app that will help unfortunate people? Then get media to cast some light on your generous activity for a good PR. People will then start recognizing you and you will start to attract the right kind of people including women. No competition from other men in bars or online dating website and you will have an interesting story to tell your friends and future kids how you met your wife before you got married.
Just my two cents.
It's true. Getting your photo in the paper attached to an article can work wonders.
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