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Your circle sounds a lot like mine, jilla. Even when we were younger (and according to the interweb, more "valuable") nobody was dating multiple guys at a time or had a bunch of FWBs. Most of my friends didn't date in high school much and while we got more experience in college, it was by no means Girls Gone Wild. That's what's normal round these parts, though I know that according to Internet law that means that we're probably uptight prudes.
I always get a kick out of the more valuable thing too because I've never found it easier in my life to get a date than I do now, post-divorce, post 35 years old. My big problem is just finding a good match. Off subject a bit, I met a really nice man this weekend when I went to the hardware store, we had lunch together and exchanged numbers and e-mail address. We'll see
Anyway, yeah, you and I have had similar experience. Granted, there were the "Girls Gone Wild" types out there. My cousin was (and still is) one of them. But they were by no means most of the people I knew... and other than my cousin, I really didn't associate with that type of person. So I just wonder if some of these guys are running into that type a lot and not seeing the types that were more like you and me. It would be fitting, I was "invisible" back in the day so it wouldn't surprise me that similar women are invisible now.
What is with the fixation with virginity ??? Sheesh do you also track how many cups of coffee one drinks?? It is a meaningless fetish with no point in pursuing.
For those who don't get it continue to talk while those who are busy with it can't be bothered discussing this ..
I wish I grew up in that type of area or back then lol
In high school everyone was "messing" with someone. I was very sheltered compared to most kids my age. I didn't even know what the heck a virgin was until 9th grade when someone asked me. Even then I didn't jump in and say "I want to do it too." To most dudes on here and probably some in real life, I am a "prude" because I am not the type to jump when a guy says jump or constantly run into guys I am attracted to. I only knew video games, television, and school. I went to school and came home, and I am still like that today.
Just the kind of person I am. I suppose my environment shaped my personality a lot, in a sense that I haven't shifted from my comfort zone. I got caught up for a little while when I was 16 before I snapped back into my senses. Just about everyone here finds me unusual and strange since I am not dating anyone. Most of my friends don't talk about it EVERYTIME we see each other but comes up a lot in conversation.
I get the feeling they are "waiting" for me to experience what they have...like I'm under a microscope. It's actually annoying and makes me feel a bit self conscious. I'm not sure about this whole 5% thing. I don't think it is really worth researching though. I believe it just depends on the area and the people in it.
Me too, for all of it-the virgin thing I found out in 8th grade, when someone asked. And that's really sad that a 13-year-old is expected to have had sex a while ago. Unless the girls were lying, but stated "Well, I used to be one too." . Agree with Fe and Jil. My friend, and the girls she hung with, none of them were wild party types. They had some boyfriends but it wasn't casual. And same for me, I never run into guys I am attracted to. All throughout my school life, I had a crush on 6 guys. Otherwise, I wasn't popular in school, so I found ways to entertain myself, and that became television, games, and reading. And like you, still is like that. My ex friend was just like me. But she managed to get her boyfriend and lose her v card before me. Which is fine, just not when she wants to bring up guys and shift the convo to if I found one yet, and hoping I do, and throwing the pity card out. And it's been asked quite a few times if I had a boyfriend, and I wonder what business is it of anyone's?
I won't argue that some women run though men like candy. But I wouldn't go so far as to say it's natural, or a blanket statement that it's normal for all women. There's a balance between running through a line of men, and being a prude who hates men and never does anything. Some women are just more relationship oriented, rather than casual sex aka have sex and see what happens afterward. Some try to build the connection first, then the sex comes after a relationship is established.
This thread is closed. Not only is the topic not about relationships, but the link in the opening post was for an article which is not PG-13. Finally, the topic of virginity has been discussed to death in many prior threads.
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