Getting married within less than 3 months of knowing each other. How often do they work out? (dating, wife)
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An acquaintance annonced on FB that she got married. At first, me and a few others thought it was a joke but it turned out real that she and her man eloped. I asked my sister about it and she has only known him for a few months. I guess whatever floats her boat. lol. I congratulated her and wish them the best.
I knew one co-worker who married someone after 30 days, and at the time I met them, they had been married eight years. I've long since lost touch, though.
More recently, a friend married her boyfriend after about six months. They're coming up on one year married, no problems it seems.
I think I would agree with that. If something is going to end a relationship, something is going to end it - whether it be after 4 months or 4 years, in my opinion.
Might work for some people, but I bet it wouldn't for me. I've always found that everything is euphoric for about the first 3 months, then all the quirky behavior you thought was cute becomes irritating, and some of the larger character flaws don't come out until the 6-12 month period.
Marriage? Two to three years for me please.
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Wow, it takes me several months just to see if I want to be exclusive with someone. IME, that the honeymoon period can last from months to a few years, so I would be wary of knowing someone for such a short time. I have friends who would definitely slap me silly if I did get married that fast.
My ex married a girl on their first date. They split up in the first month.
He moved into my home on the first date. He proposed to me within the first month together. He left me for another woman, did the same thing, moved in on first date, engaged within month, however they broke up before the third month. He is now engaged and living within another woman. They met in October.
I don't think it's wise to marry someone before you have observed and evaluated their compatibility with a clear and critical mind. That can be hard to do when you are under the spell of infatuation. You want to see how they handle stress such as illness and/or job loss, observe their relationships with friends and family, and make sure that they "walk their talk".
But I also don't think that it takes years of dating to learn enough about a person to know if they are right for you. Just my opinion, but I think it's sweet and romantic when a couple are actually married during their "honeymoon stage".
Knowing someone is not always about chronological time. That said, 3 months for most people is not that long to get to know each other either. Depends on the particulars.
I knew my wife a couple months shy of two years when I proposed. So I cannot relate to these really short courtships.
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