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Since we have been discussing OLD some in other posts, and since there are always newbies to this lifestyle, be it the very young, or those out of long-term relationships, who have not dated in years or even decades, I thought I'd start a thread about red flags in dating profiles, information that the inexperienced would perhaps overlook, but preferably should pay attention to before proceeding. I'll start with some of mine.
1. Sunglasses in your major profile pic: I don't mind them on your head, but please show your face in its entirety.
2. Belly shots: why would I even look at your profile? It's clear what you're after.
3. Posing with kids: I'm not sure I like the idea of exposing your (underage) offspring to dating sites to show what a great parent you are (are you?), or how beautiful your kids are (their looks have nothing to do with your personality). Do they know they are part of your profile? Do you have boundaries?
4. "I'm honest/trustworthy/faithful/sincere/funny/...": these are parameters that I would like to see realized in your actions before I put the seal of approval on you. I have found that those who load up their profiles with these noble traits tend to lack them, and often, you will not find out early enough. I'd rather see them tell stories of past experiences that would show these traits, or just express themselves in ways that would allow me to see that kind of person in them. But just those traits, in an otherwise non-descript or self-centered profile is a red flag for me.
5. "I don't know what to say about myself", or different versions thereof: smacks of emptiness or lack of self-awareness.
6. No pic: and then requesting responses with photos only. Seriously?
7. Huge age discrepancy between the poster and the pool they would like to fish in.
8. Big car/insert status symbol of choice in the background: what are you compensating for with these items? Insecurities much?
9. Old photos: no comment
10. Overly flowery text, improper or awkward English, or just a mere gut feeling that something is odd with this profile - scammer alert. You'd be surprised how many folks still fall for them.
I agree with #1. Lose the cheaters! Wearing 'em puts the other person at a psychological disadvantage.
Also, I don't care if you like motorcycles, but if you don't own one, for heaven's sake, don't pose yourself on the biggest Harley you find.
Not smiling. This gives the impression that you're a miserable person (unhappy, blame the world for your troubles).
Not to sound prejudiced or racist, but save the Spanish for the Latino sites. It's okay if you're bilingual, but post your profile in English!
Since we have been discussing OLD some in other posts, and since there are always newbies to this lifestyle, be it the very young, or those out of long-term relationships, who have not dated in years or even decades, I thought I'd start a thread about red flags in dating profiles, information that the inexperienced would perhaps overlook, but preferably should pay attention to before proceeding. I'll start with some of mine.
1. Sunglasses in your major profile pic: I don't mind them on your head, but please show your face in its entirety.
2. Belly shots: why would I even look at your profile? It's clear what you're after. 3. Posing with kids: I'm not sure I like the idea of exposing your (underage) offspring to dating sites to show what a great parent you are (are you?), or how beautiful your kids are (their looks have nothing to do with your personality). Do they know they are part of your profile? Do you have boundaries?
4. "I'm honest/trustworthy/faithful/sincere/funny/...": these are parameters that I would like to see realized in your actions before I put the seal of approval on you. I have found that those who load up their profiles with these noble traits tend to lack them, and often, you will not find out early enough. I'd rather see them tell stories of past experiences that would show these traits, or just express themselves in ways that would allow me to see that kind of person in them. But just those traits, in an otherwise non-descript or self-centered profile is a red flag for me.
5. "I don't know what to say about myself", or different versions thereof: smacks of emptiness or lack of self-awareness.
6. No pic: and then requesting responses with photos only. Seriously?
7. Huge age discrepancy between the poster and the pool they would like to fish in.
8. Big car/insert status symbol of choice in the background: what are you compensating for with these items? Insecurities much?
9. Old photos: no comment
10. Overly flowery text, improper or awkward English, or just a mere gut feeling that something is odd with this profile - scammer alert. You'd be surprised how many folks still fall for them.
What are your red flags or pet peeves?
Maybe they're letting people know that they have kids and they're proud of it. Instead of finding out they have kids later on in the courting process, you know right out the bat. I don't think it's a bad idea IMO.
I don't do online dating but I could imagine using filters and certain angles as your profile picture can be manipulating and deceiving.
I agree with #1. Lose the cheaters! Wearing 'em puts the other person at a psychological disadvantage.
Also, I don't care if you like motorcycles, but if you don't own one, for heaven's sake, don't pose yourself on the biggest Harley you find.
Not smiling. This gives the impression that you're a miserable person (unhappy, blame the world for your troubles). Not to sound prejudiced or racist, but save the Spanish for the Latino sites. It's okay if you're bilingual, but post your profile inEnglish!
That does sound kind of petty. Just because you cannot read or speak spanish, people shouldn't write in their native language? (I'm assuming that you cannot speak or write in spanish) Well, I guess this is YOUR pet peeve but I find that very peculiar.
Maybe they're letting people know that they have kids and they're proud of it. Instead of finding out they have kids later on in the courting process, you know right out the bat. I don't think it's a bad idea IMO.
I don't do online dating but I could imagine using filters and certain angles as your profile picture can be manipulating and deceiving.
There's no way I'd put pics of my children on an OLD site. That's just tacky. I agree with the OP on that one.
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