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She has not been counted out entirely. But once again, I made my intentions clear to her already and put in a decent amount of work to pursue her the first time. She told me she wasn't ready for a relationship. I respectfully told her that I was backing off for the time being in order to give her space. The ball is officially in her court now. If she doesn't think I'm worth it, then no skin off my back. As many of you have already intentionally made me well aware, she'll likely have a ton of guys ready to pursue her anyway. So what difference does it make to me? She'll be fine regardless of if I pursue her.
IIRC, you put in effort that wasn't returned, at a time when she'd already expressed that she'd just gotten out of a relationship and wasn't ready for a new one. Hasn't she contacted you recently, and if so, how did that go?
"She told me she wasn't ready for a relationship."
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Originally Posted by Lafleur
She has not been counted out entirely. But once again, I made my intentions clear to her already and put in a decent amount of work to pursue her the first time. She told me she wasn't ready for a relationship. I respectfully told her that I was backing off for the time being in order to give her space. The ball is officially in her court now. If she doesn't think I'm worth it, then no skin off my back. As many of you have already intentionally made me well aware, she'll likely have a ton of guys ready to pursue her anyway. So what difference does it make to me? She'll be fine regardless of if I pursue her.
IIRC, you put in effort that wasn't returned, at a time when she'd already expressed that she'd just gotten out of a relationship and wasn't ready for a new one. Hasn't she contacted you recently, and if so, how did that go?
She did. Last week. She asked me how my trip home was and then we hung out (in a small group) on the weekend. It went fine. We may have flirted a little. But there was otherwise no indication one way or the other if she wanted to pursue things romantically.
As far as I'm concerned, she can ask me out this time if she's interested. I'm not about to set myself up for rejection, round two with her.
She did. Last week. She asked me how my trip home was and then we hung out (in a small group) on the weekend. It went fine. We may have flirted a little. But there was otherwise no indication one way or the other if she wanted to pursue things romantically.
As far as I'm concerned, she can ask me out this time if she's interested. I'm not about to set myself up for rejection, round two with her.
You are over-ANALyze it. Weekend is coming, pick the next available chic from the 'ball-pan' and enjoy your weekend with her/them....
You need more of an abundance mentality. Don't 'put your all' into one girl until she's earned it. I would focus on the things you enjoy most, stay in good shape, develop a social circle, and live your life. Eventually you'll meet many different women. The key is don't commit to one unless you're 100% sure she's worth it. Stop being such a push over and putting women up on a pedestal. You should only give a girl flowers/dinners/etc once you're in a monogamous relationship and you're both giving/receiving. IMO, if you're both in a similar social class, it should really be a 50/50 deal even then.
Last night's date went well. She enjoyed the movie and we had drinks afterwards. Stayed the night with her again.
She's talking about things to do together in the future...Seems pretty positive.
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"She told me she wasn't ready for a relationship."
He's not looking for that, he's looking for a meaningful relationship.
