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I've been with my girlfriend for one year as of 9/1/15. She was excited to celebrate our 1 year DATING anniversary. I being older and divorced wasn't into this as much as she is but chose to celebrate it anyways. We were unable to go away as she desired because I was relocating that week but took I our anniversary off from relocating to be with her.
I woke up on the morning of and went and got her Nutella French toast from a local breakfast place. She LOVES Nutella. I the brought her a full bouquet of roses and served her breakfast in bed. Mod cut.
As it turned out I found out on my anniversary that my friend died the night before. I gave her a 30 minute full body massage after this news. This tragic news hindered my good mood for a few hours. We didnt really click well on this day.
I ended up taking her to a movie followed by a nice dinner at her favorite sushi place. The food was good but conversation was irritating because she was giving me crap about my brother who was going to visit for a week soon.
She now wants to re celebrate our anniversary again. Im so not into it. I dont see the relevance until married. I treat her extremely well and take her out often for food day spas, massages, etc. I find it so much more meaningful to surprise her with these unexpected actions than re celebrating a past date with expectations.
Although I will likely suck it up and re celebrate because its important to her and I wrong for thinking that its unnecessary to "recelebrate" an event that has already passed even if it wasnt up to our expectations? My argument is what about the things that were done that day? It doesnt seem like it mattered and I spent over $200 making it happen. She's driving me nuts and gets emotional when I try to explain my views. I believe she is a loving and grateful person but perseverating over her "special day" not being perfect as it has been with some of her past ex'es who would take her out of town and make it a bigger deal than I desire to.
Last edited by PJSaturn; 09-05-2015 at 03:07 PM..
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My husband made it very clear when we started dating that we would never celebrate any anniversary except for our wedding anniversary. I was a little disappointed but it was fine. We had our 10 year wedding anniversary in April and still haven't celebrated it because he was out of town on business during that time! LOL! I think if you sit down with her and really explain how you feel - that you love her and that you love being with her but you don't really care about celebrating anniversaries and it's not enjoyable for you - maybe she'll let it go. I mean, it's not really fun to "celebrate" something if the other person doesn't want to be celebrating.
1. You rescheduled your relocation for her and she didn't appreciate that.
2. Your friend died and she wasn't sensitive to it and went ahead as planned.
3. She nags about your family member on your anniversary.
4. She wasn't grateful and wants to redo $200 worth of date.
5. She compares you to her exes, by basically saying they are better than you.
Break up with her, explaining that there is no way you can top whatever her exes have done, so it's better just to bid a fond farewell.
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