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Avoid the internet dating site at all costs if your picture sucks, you make no money, or have too many deal breakers yourself, it will just never work. Now if you drop some of your deal breakers (date single moms, smokers, cleft lip chicks, etc) you will have a WHOLE bunch of new options. You can be ugly as sin, but have confidence, and you are golden. Impossible to do this in online date though.
It doesn't matter if you think you're "less" on the looks scale than the average guy. I personally LIKE men who aren't that traditionally hot... I'd much rather have a shorter, softer, hard-working man who's a total sweetheart and adores me than a huge, bulky 6'5" dude with a goatee and an ego the size of Canada.
I consider myself to be at the bottom of the totem pole in the dating world. I was just wondering how a guy like myself can compete against normal or above average men.
I was not going to comment on this because I hoped people would have caught onto the OP's pattern by now, every few weeks he posts a somewhat sad question, then runs away from it, and does not post again in the thread he started. Since his post is still lingering on here, I will comment... The OP does not want to date women his own tier/league/level, he would clearly rather be celibate than date a "bottom of the totem pole" woman. Telling him to lower his standards misses the point, telling the OP that his self evaluation is inaccurate is without basis. I see people most every day that are basically "undatable", open your eyes! Given what the OP provides, not only is there is no solution, it is self evident that there is no solution. 'fell good' banalities are not going to help him, even if he reads them, which I doubt.
I consider myself to be at the bottom of the totem pole in the dating world. I was just wondering how a guy like myself can compete against normal or above average men. Even women that use online dating seem to only want the above average guys.
Becoming wealthy would take you from bottom to top, in no time.
If you can't become wealthy then develop a good personality and learn to talk.
I was just wondering how a guy like myself can compete against normal or above average men. Even women that use online dating seem to only want the above average guys.
How high up you are on the totem pole depends on the location you are at. Two important factors not depending on you in this regard:
- how you compare to the men at that given location
- the percentage share of women you find attractive locally
what women find attractive can be things like good economy, education and confidence. All within reach for most men.
Things like your height and body type is also relative to the people at that location.
The percentage share of local women you fancy is also important. The more attractive women there are, the less choice each of them have at finding the "perfect man". Thus better chances for you.
This sums up to not only maximizing on your own attractiveness, but also finding an optimal location based on your tastes and assets. Demographics is important. And maybe you should search abroad? There are some websites that can use to help you find good locations.
if you cannot love yourself, then how can you love another person?
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