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Originally Posted by TheSmuggler
Why is moving in together with then intention of getting married, though maybe not engaged at that moment, "trying to decide whether he wants me or not?"
Also, why does a signature on a legal document effectively placing his balls in a vice at your command, and then only, render him deserving of a sammich' and coffee?
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Sorry, I didn't realize these were genuine questions. "Placing his balls in a vise at my command" (it's vise, not vice) was so hyperbolic that I didn't take you seriously.
Re-read the OP. He wants to live together for a couple of years to determine IF he wants to proceed to the next step, which MAY be engagement. I wanted to be married, not live in limbo. The OP's girlfriend is in her early 30s, and the OP has not made up his mind whether he intends to marry her. That decision might come in a couple years. Maybe.
I fed my husband before we got married. I fed my ex-boyfriend too. I post frequently in the Food forum and can easily point to posts of mine where I talk about doing both those things, so it's not like I am just saying it now to save face. For my cooking to go from date/treat frequency to expected behavior, I need that signature, yeah. But not the vise so much--we don't swing that way.
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