The sharing thread. Why are you single? (girl, attracted, attractiveness)
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I don't know to be honest. I'm dating a girl right now. I'm not sure if I can call it a relationship though. I don't see it working out in the long run.
I've for years been struggling to put myself in a position where I can have some finances to go and do some things fun with someone. I've been in college for years trying to plan for some type of career. The one girlfriend I did have during this time decided another man was better for her ultimately. Didn't see it coming and no hard feelings.. moving on.
I'm not a bad looking guy, going on 34, exercise, have a good job, no kids, good with kids etc... I've tried multiple dating websites with little to no success on many in meeting local ladies that would like to even have a discussion let alone date. Like the OP stated, I don't care for the bar scene anymore, etc.. my frustrations are posted throughout this board in various places.
One thing about me though is I don't even bother with the women on the dating sites that has in her subject line "NO LIARS" .. or "NO GAMES" or something of the equivalent in all caps. It's just the attitude that says to me to stay far away. We're not going to get along well.
As the OP as well, I will date a women with a child, but when there is multiple children to another man I shy away.
So I will look to date younger girls. Ten years younger. I have no problem with that. Looking for a lady that would have my children and share a commitment with me.. Now that I'm in a position to be able to be a provider.. and do it responsibly. The problem I have now is meeting them. Lots of young ladies at work, but that is bad business.
I guess if I can't find what I'm looking for in a partner, then I need to just be content with being single.
I guess I really don't know the answer to this question. It's probably because I have not found the right woman yet. I played singles co-ed softball last summer, and joined the fall, winter, and spring bowling leagues so it's not like I am not putting myself out there. I am doing Match.com and Coffee Meets Bagel. So far I had one date from Coffee Meets Bagel. I went out with a woman on Saturday for lunch. I thought it was going well until I got a text from her last night which basically said she had a good time, but there was "no connection."
I know I could put more effort into this, but I really don't want it to be a second job. I'd rather enjoy myself, live life, and hopefully I'll find the right person. It's true what they say, you find the right person when you're not looking.
A lot of my friends seem to be in the same boat. Everyone is super picky. How can you decide if you have a connection with someone after being with them for only two hours? I guess people can. Oh well.
When you get right down to the root problem, I'm single mostly because I'm visually impaired.
Because I'm visually impaired, I can't drive. Public transit works fine for getting to and from work, (at an office of 10 people) but doesn't work well for getting out for other activities.
I don't strike up conversations with many random strangers, because I feel that most people would rather not be bothered. But, if I do find myself talking to someone that I might be interested in knowing better, being visually impaired makes it very difficult to read their reactions, to know if they feel the same way. Needless to say, flirting is wasted on me.
Some on this forum have suggested that I should move to a bigger city, where it's easier to get around without a car and meet more people. (not to mention the stigma of not having a car would be much less) But I'm quite happy with most other aspects of my life, so I've decided to accept being single, in exchange for a pretty great life, otherwise.
I'm single because a suitable partner has not crossed paths with me yet.
At my age, the air gets mighty thin, and the number of people with significant, and more importantly, unprocessed baggage increases exponentially. Those with long-term relationship skills are in, well, long-term relationships, for the most part, and the rest of them float around on dating sites, randomly hitting up people, or stonewalling themselves behind unrealistic expectations of the superficial kind.
I'm at a stage in my life where I have become very selective as to whom I will let close, something I should have done a lot sooner, but I failed to connect the dots correctly. Now I have, and am totally comfortable on my own, which gives me the ability to take it or leave it with others. Quality over quantity. I would like a partner, not be a project manager, mother, janitor, armchair psychologist, FWB, sugar momma, rebound, stand-in for the ex, or an object to be ordered around. Men (sorry, guys, not all, but many) come out of relationships, and quickly aim to get into a new one (women do it, too, I know, but I'm writing about why I'm single, and I don't date women), to be "taken care of" in whatever shape or form they need that. This may work for some women, it's just not for me.
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