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So I'm trying to be an understanding girlfriend, I've been cheated on before and I don't want it happening again. So here are my questions, men if your in a relationship do you still want to be with other women, I know the thought is there ok fine men like sex, but do you act on it? And if so how far will you go? Online chatting with strangers, escorts, strippers, porn, facebooking women, skyping strangers, do you have actual affairs? What do you do please be honest! Should I worry or trust my partner, he is very honest and open and I'm trying to understand a mans psychology but this is very difficult because as a woman I can say that I don't have any of these urges...
Last edited by Ariel91; 03-10-2015 at 07:15 AM..
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However, most studies show that women cheat just as much as men do.
Of course not all women cheat, either.
However, you can bet that all men still find other women attractive. They might be married but they aren't dead. They're gonna look. They might entertain fleeting thoughts. It's whether they say or do anything in those situations, that counts. You can't punish a guy for having eyes and a brain. And odds are, if you are a woman in a committed relationship, eventually you're going to notice other guys here and there that are appealing.
It all comes down to whether one acts on that, or has the self control not to.
I'd loveeee to know what "studies" show that women cheat as much as men. Big HA! on that one!
I've seen it on any number of anthropological documentaries on TV...I could "cite sources" but frankly I'd just be Googling and you're just as able to do that as I am.
I'm female by the way, so I'm not speaking from a "grumpy dude" place. It also depends on circumstance and age and things like that. A lot of marriages end statistically at a certain point, usually when a woman is in her 30's and her biological clock starts (*STOMP, STOMP*) tickin' like this....women do hit a point where urges to cheat come naturally. It doesn't mean she is powerless against them and will automatically give in, any more than a guy with an eye for a pretty lady is going to give in every time.
I don't know about "all men," but mine does. I do also. We think it's normal and talk about it. We've been married a long time, though. And you two might just have very different opinions.
I am more curious I guess about the virtual aspect, I know the urges are there... But do men actively seek little online flings, do they get escorts? Do they get more than lap dances at the strip club?? What is normal man behaviour I want to understand the mans brain!! So I told my bf strip clubs ok lap dances ok nothing else, he likes the fantasy aspect of chatting dirty online but would never act on it I know this..I also recently agreed to let him Skype with a random Brazilian girl who's on the other side of the world and she knows it's just for fun...so I'm wondering if it's normal if I'm being cool and understanding..and if most guys would do even more but not tell their gf's because mine seriously tells me everything because I'm very open and wouldn't want my man to feel suffocated and run around on me so I try and give him some freedom aslong as he is open and honest with me...!
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I am more curious I guess about the virtual aspect, I know the urges are there... But do men actively seek little online flings, do they get escorts? Do they get more than lap dances at the strip club?? What is normal man behaviour I want to understand the mans brain!!
Like 90% of the posts on this forum, they key is to stop trying to figure out what an entire gender thinks or wants.
Do men do XYZ? Some do, some don't.
What is normal? That depends on who you ask.
There is no "man's brain" just like there is no "woman's brain".
There are individual brains. So focus on getting to know the one person you're interacting with and stop giving a damn if it is the norm, or what most people of a gender want. It's really irrelevant.
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