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I have recently been having a great deal of anxiety about something and I wanted to get other guys opinions.
I am currently in a relationship with my girlfriend who I love, and I would never in a million years cheat on her.
Recently while masturbating, I actually fantasized about another woman while watching porn. I used the pornography as a way to "stimulate" the fantasy I was having. Specifically, this is somebody who I had past sexual experiences with, but do not (and won't) come in contact with in my current relationship. I sometimes enjoy the fantasy of past sexual encounters and other hypothetical fantasies with these women because it appears as the "forbidden fruit". Hypothetically, if any situation presented itself with this woman, I would never act on it, or even consider it, and I have no feelings towards her at all. It was strictly a fantasy which I used during masturbation.
I have been experiencing anxiety about this lately, somehow convincing myself that I "cheated". Obviously, if my girlfriend knew this was my fantasy, she would not approve. One part of me says that it's cheating because of the hypothetical lack of approval, and the other side of me says that it was strictly a fantasy, and it was not real. It was simply in my mind.
I wanted to get others thoughts on this, including your experience. Thanks.
[Snip.] I think I've just been putting myself through a guilt trip for no reason
This.
However, I'd only suggest to not overdo the porn use. It can become addicting to the point that that's the only way some guys can get off. We've seen too many threads here about husbands who get so into masturbating to porn that the marriage falls apart.
However, I'd only suggest to not overdo the porn use. It can become addicting to the point that that's the only way some guys can get off. We've seen too many threads here about husbands who get so into masturbating to porn that the marriage falls apart.
Totally agree. I honestly don't watch porn that often anymore now that I'm with my GF. I just felt guilty when I did it recently and had my own internal fantasies about other women, because I keep forcing myself to think that "if she knew what you were thinking while doing this, she'd obviously be upset".
Again, I recognize that what I'm saying may be totally illogical. Just wanted to get others opinions.
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