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On Sat we were at a pool party and there was playful banter with my husband towards my friend... I told him it bothered me and he immediately got upset at me and said he didn't see the big deal.... Now he saying he never wants to be around her to avoid making me upset... None of this was in a nice tone or understanding.. He says he doesn't get it.... All I would have liked would a a respectful response... Hey I dint realize or didn't think it was but okay I don't want to ever make u uncomfortable and leave it at that instead it blew up and its a bigger and worse fight.
On Sat we were at a pool party and there was playful banter with my husband towards my friend... I told him it bothered me and he immediately got upset at me and said he didn't see the big deal.... Now he saying he never wants to be around her to avoid making me upset... None of this was in a nice tone or understanding.. He says he doesn't get it.... All I would have liked would a a respectful response... Hey I dint realize or didn't think it was but okay I don't want to ever make u uncomfortable and leave it at that instead it blew up and its a bigger and worse fight.
You sound insecure and jealous. That's not attractive. Either come out and accuse your husband of cheating or woman up and stop trying to control how your husband talks to people.
Professional help wouldn't be a be idea...because this doesn't bide well for the communication in your marriage.
On Sat we were at a pool party and there was playful banter with my husband towards my friend.
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By definition, it is harmless. So you will need to provide more info because at this point your reaction is an overreaction. With that said, your husband's reaction is over-the-top, too.
It depends on how you brought it up to him. Were you accusatory?
If not, his reaction was probably just defensive and more than likely because he enjoyed the banter. (not that this means he's ready to have an affair) How is your relationship otherwise? Has this come up before?
With this incident and the rest you have posted in other threads both of you need to seek Marriage Counseling and both of you need to determine if your Marriage is able to be saved.
I would suggest you seek counseling immediately and discuss these issues with your husband and keep these issues between you, your husband and the marriage counselor and keep them off of the internet.
With this incident and the rest you have posted in other threads both of you need to seek Marriage Counseling and both of you need to determine if your Marriage is able to be saved.
I would suggest you seek counseling immediately and discuss these issues with your husband and keep these issues between you, your husband and the marriage counselor and keep them off of the internet.
This^^
Just read your other thread.
Given that, I'm sure he was enjoying this banter because he's miserable, like you, in this marriage.
Counseling, or a respectable, real, heart to heart is in order.
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