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I grew up in a town of about 15,000 people but left when I got out of high school. I never dated there, and when I go back to visit I think I would have a very difficult time since I've lived in places at least a million or more since I was 22. Maybe ask friends if they know any singles? Maybe you can start a singles meet-up group? Aside from that I have no clue.
I've been in that situation a number of times and what happened was that I ended up settling for guys I would neveeeeer normally date
Thinking about it makes me want to go take a cold shower
I'm wondering how long you will be staying in this place and how far are you from civilization?
I clicked on this thread b/c I live in a hole in the wall about 2-1/2 hours from a big city, one that I travel to often, and I just got out of a LDR and I'm trying to date locally but it's hard. I only plan to stay another year though. The sum total of my love life right now is that I have a man very interested in me but I'm not a bit sure about him b/c he seems to totally lack ambition, and a pen pal that I would move close to in a red hot second but he hasn't asked me to and doesn't seem much interested in more than being pen pals. It's abysmal.
For those of you ever spent a long time living in a place with no singles or at least no easy way to meet other singles and far away from any other major metro, how did you date? Besides the internet. Is it practical for people to take vacations to other large cities, and assume that they'll meet someone who's willing to be in a long distance relationship (with the assumption that one of you will eventually relocate for the other)? Do people do that?
This is starting to get depressing, but my family is here and I have a great job that I know I could never get in a major metro (too much competition). And I like small town living.
I spent my twenties as a newspaper editor in the rural midwest. All my dating was either with people I met in the course of my work, with friends of friends, or via online (seldom seeking people from my actual small town, expanding it to other communities in the region).
For those of you ever spent a long time living in a place with no singles or at least no easy way to meet other singles and far away from any other major metro, how did you date? Besides the internet. Is it practical for people to take vacations to other large cities, and assume that they'll meet someone who's willing to be in a long distance relationship (with the assumption that one of you will eventually relocate for the other)? Do people do that?
This is starting to get depressing, but my family is here and I have a great job that I know I could never get in a major metro (too much competition). And I like small town living.
Yes, the frustrating part is finding someone you truly connect with on an emotional and mental level.. add the distance and financial constraints to that equation, you do feel a sense of sadness because how can something that seems so easy for others seem so difficult for yourself?
I believe most people meet their lifetime S.O.'s mainly through friends of friends, or place of work (and school).
It's sad to think that you can bridge gaps with just anyone you know and feel that bond, but you can't create chemistry so meeting that person by chance is a matter of who knows what.
For those of you ever spent a long time living in a place with no singles or at least no easy way to meet other singles and far away from any other major metro, how did you date? Besides the internet. Is it practical for people to take vacations to other large cities, and assume that they'll meet someone who's willing to be in a long distance relationship (with the assumption that one of you will eventually relocate for the other)? Do people do that?
This is starting to get depressing, but my family is here and I have a great job that I know I could never get in a major metro (too much competition). And I like small town living.
Best thing to do is go to the markets, stores, churches, parks, gyms, and open women or men.
Taking vacations to try and find someone to date "long distance" really is not going to be a winning strategy. I would not bother.
You either need to become very social in the small towns social events and activities, whatever those are, to meet the few singles that may exist there or work on your career and skills to the point you are able to move to a larger community with more opportunities to date.
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