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Old 05-04-2015, 11:40 AM
 
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Before I elaborate, I would like to state that I am not seeking advice as to whether or not I should get in touch with him. This is my choice and I would kindly ask you to respect that.

I met someone in 2013, we dated a bit then (2 weeks) then we stopped communicating. We dated again in early 2014, then stopped communicating.

It's been a year since we have spoken but I've been thinking of him a lot lately (I've dated other men since, I also moved cities so did he ...). I sort of want to get in touch with him through Facebook (since I no longer have his phone number).

How can I contact him "casually" without making it seem as though I am "desperate"? Can anyone provide me with a small sample?

(Please, no comment regarding the fact that I will look "desperate" anyway, it's really not the point of this thread).

Thanks!
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Old 05-04-2015, 11:54 AM
 
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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A holiday or a birthday is always and easy in. Xmas, etc aren't around the corner, so that might not work, but holidays are always good.

If his birthday is soon that's an easy in.
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Old 05-04-2015, 11:58 AM
 
Location: Eastern Washington
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Well you could send him a friend request on Facebook. That's easy and low risk.
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Old 05-04-2015, 11:58 AM
 
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A holiday or a birthday is always and easy in. Xmas, etc aren't around the corner, so that might not work, but holidays are always good.

If his birthday is soon that's an easy in.
His birthday was last month and at the time, I wasn't ready to get in touch. I missed that chance, what do I do now?
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Old 05-04-2015, 11:59 AM
 
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Well you could send him a friend request on Facebook. That's easy and low risk.

This, and in time comment on something posted (in a light way), it my turn into a chat. Or it gives you an in for a chat.
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Old 05-04-2015, 12:03 PM
 
Location: NNJ
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Contact him to wish him a belated Happy Birthday... it would be a nice gesture...

Then follow up with a How are you?

Shows that you still remember your times together.
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Old 05-04-2015, 12:38 PM
 
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just take the risk and send him a message on facebook asking how they are doing if they would want to get coffee
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Old 05-04-2015, 12:47 PM
 
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What should I say though?

Hey, what's up?
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Old 05-04-2015, 01:07 PM
 
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What should I say though?

Hey, what's up?
I think that should be enough, "Hey, how are you?"

Then wait....wait...

No follow up. Wait.... Wait....


*Ding*
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Old 05-04-2015, 01:16 PM
 
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The above suggestions are good ones. Rarely can a "hello" be misconstrued as desperate. It would certainly help us to know the context of your prior dating and breakups. Also, what's your goal in contacting him?
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