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So, it seems there is more to this story than meets the eye. Regardless, my advice is the same. If you can't have an honest conversation with your girlfriend of 3 years about this - then you need to think about your relationship. If something is bothering you - you should be able to talk to her about it.
We've been together for 3 years (live together) and while she has had some issues with my family, they have been nothing but nice to her in the past several months. But I am shocked she has not even asked me about the baby when I went to meet her for the first time. As far as I know, she has not offered any congratulations to my brother and my mom has sent everyone a few pics, her included, all would respond but her! My mom is furious about her lack of interest and thinks she's being selfish because of the past. my GF is known to love babies but because she doesn't like my brother's wife I wonder if that's the reason....
Ignoring a significant family event that's a big deal to most people and pointedly blowing it off is a passive-aggressive exercise in making a statement to people she's not fond of.
It's essentially a manipulation. She doesn't like your sister-in-law, has past baggage with your family, so she's going to withhold attention when something happens that it would be normal to acknowledge. It makes a statement of "I don't like you, and don't care about your happy event," without being confrontational. She knows it's pushing buttons, and that's probably the intent.
Maybe it's warranted, maybe she's being a snot. You'd know better than anybody. HAS your family been treating her like crap (prior to the "last couple of months")? Is there a reason she would want to send them a message of "Yeah, I really don't care?"
Ask her what her purpose is in not acknowledging this thing that's happened.
Like others have said, after three years, you really need to talk to her about it.
However, after three years of turmoil with your family, just being nice the past three months isn't going to change your GF's feelings towards your family. It's probably just hard for her to muster up some fake excitement and doesn't fully trust them yet, understandably so.
Given that your Mother is already furious over it proves she has no idea how her actions have affected your GF over the years. Give your GF some time, with no expectations, regarding her interactions with your family. If you gang up on her to, then be prepared to see her leave.
So, it seems there is more to this story than meets the eye. Regardless, my advice is the same. If you can't have an honest conversation with your girlfriend of 3 years about this - then you need to think about your relationship. If something is bothering you - you should be able to talk to her about it.
Mrs. NBP's brother's daughter had a baby a couple months ago, her (and her husband's) first. I think it's a boy. I'm not 100% positive. I might be able to tell by the name but I don't know that, either.
Sometimes I get REALLY annoyed when friends of friends show me their pictures of their newborn niece or something. I mean come ON I really don't care. Most children when they are born are NOT CUTE by the way.
It's not just me. I mean one example is people who post daily pictures of their baby on Facebook. Yeah I'm sure your 500 friends really want to see those pictures every single day of a fat little guy with a squished face lol
It's not just me. I mean one example is people who post daily pictures of their baby on Facebook. Yeah I'm sure your 500 friends really want to see those pictures every single day of a fat little guy with a squished face lol
And we all want to see what you eat every day at lunch, and your cocktails at night?
Yes, I want to see my friend's and relative's ugly kids! I'm their FRIEND. It's my job to support whatever the heck it is they are doing... raising kids, work stuff, BF stuff, etc. Do I comment on every kidlet pic? Gosh no, that would be pretty time consuming. But at least give them a drive-by "like" every once in awhile.
Heck, I post pics of their kids on my FB. I love photography and kids don't care when you shove a camera in their face. The usually like it.
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And we all want to see what you eat every day at lunch, and your cocktails at night?
I can't stand that either. Nobody cares to see daily pictures of what you're eating or knowing that you "just took a shower" or "took the dog on a walk" or "just woke up."
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