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My Brother is a extremely successfull professional (mid six figures) who is currently married to a wife who does not work in a standard job. Rather than being employed, she assists around the house and persues her own interests ranging from education, travel, investing, leadership in community interests, and improving her artistic ability. She being well rounded prefers this type of freedom to working 9 to 5, and he being very career driven enjoys working and feels PROUD to provide the means for her to have this type of life.
However, so many of my relatives as well as people in their social circle criticize the arrangement stating the following cliches:
1. He is a sucker
2. If she is not taking care of kids and not working, she is a parasite.
Yet, it seems to work very well for both of them.
Just wondering, why are so many people so judgemental of these type of marriages and have you ever seen a marriage where the husband was the provider, the wife persued her own personal development and interests, but no kids were involved work out great?
Well, to each their own.. whatever works for them.
To me it just seems strange... but hey if they're happy so be it.
It did however make me chuckle when you said "she prefers being able to travel and have free time instead of work" like that is something that should surprise us.
My personal opinion, the woman just seems like a mooch in that situation. It's situations like that, that make me wonder if this woman would feel the same way if times got hard and she actually had to do something besides nothing.
However, my personal opinion doesn't matter because they are happy.
I'm in graduate school full time and pregnant with our first. I'm not working for the first time in the 20 years that have passed since I graduated from high school. We planned this, it's fine. If anybody has a problem with it, it really doesn't matter a whit. I'm glad to have the opportunity to focus solely on my degree and my family, and my husband's glad we can afford for me to do so.
That's great that she's using her time constructively, and is giving to the community. It's situations like this that can move charitable causes forward, and help make a difference in other people's lives. The ultimate example is Eleanor Roosevelt, who was so involved in societal an humanitarian causes, and ended up being Ambassador to the UN.
Their choice is nobody's concern. Your relatives are petty, apparently either bored or unhappy or both, idiots who have nothing better to do than criticize other people's life choices, instead of being supportive of their own relative. Backstabbers are pretty low people. He'd do well to distance himself from them.
I dunno, back when I grew up hardly any moms worked outside the home.
It probably all goes back to the American hatred of poverty.
Not earning every penny you physically can, is almost blasphemous.
I think it's more a matter of the reality that in many multi-person households, being able to live on a single income is not realistic or affordable. When people do find a way to swing it, they are sometimes eyed with envy and suspicion.
I think it has to do with how people view work. A lot of people measure their own self worth by their job and their income. So they measures other by it as well. And some people don't like their jobs so they harbor resentment towards people that don't have to work. It's sort of like - If I have to work - why don't they have to work! It's not fair!
If everyone was happy - then they wouldn't care what other people do with their lives.
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