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Its been almost a year since I broke off our 2 year off and on "relationship", but I just can't stop thinking about him. Everything reminds me of him for some reason. I've tried everything, dating, hanging out, extracurricular activities, and it doesn't matter. My mind always drifts back to him. I was doing well about not thinking about him for a while, until he sent me this random text message on Christmas. So now, every since then, I've been constantly thinking about him.
Any advice on how I can stop this madness???
Last edited by SJPrincess; 01-21-2008 at 02:53 PM..
Its been almost a year since I broke off our 2 year off and on "relationship", but I just can't stop thinking about him. Everything reminds me of him for some reason. I've tried everything, dating, hanging out, extracurricular activities, and it doesn't matter. My mind always drifts back to him. I was doing well about not thinking about him for a while, until he sent me this random text message on Christmas. So now, every since then, I've been constantly thinking about him.
Any advice on how I can stop this madness???
Get a new person in your life! Been doing the same myself...but now that we're apart & I can see the forest, his branches look much different without my leaves on them.
Whenever you start thinking about him, remember why he's your ex in the first place. Clearly you two weren't working out. Sometimes when we break up and we haven't found someone else to love we can dwell on the previous relationship and the ex seems better than they actually are (because we're lonely). However, the truth of the matter is if you two got back together it wouldn't work out, just like the first time.
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If on the off chance you are currently hyperthyroid, get your thyroid radiated, you'll forget him and most everything else in now time. I'm living my own "Eternal Sunshine of a Spotless Mind."
Seriously, what has helped me in the past, books, lots of them.
I don't know, a year is not that long. It took me a few years to get a certain someone out of my system and still, almost 15 years later, he still crosses my mind now and then.
Do you still have feelings for him, some unfinished business with him? Are you reconsidering the reasons you broke up with him? Are you affraid to admit that you still have feelings for him?
I personally don't believe its a good idea to bring another person into your life if you have unresolved issues with a past boyfriend. Put yourself in his place, how would you feel if he did that too you.
TT is right....change your number if you're serious about getting over him! I don't know the details, but you do....you can become your own best friend when it comes to guarding your heart...and if you are tired of having it broken by "ex", you will take the necessary steps to guard it with vigorous force...change your number and call it "check mate"!!!
Do you still have feelings for him, some unfinished business with him? Are you reconsidering the reasons you broke up with him? Are you affraid to admit that you still have feelings for him?
I personally don't believe its a good idea to bring another person into your life if you have unresolved issues with a past boyfriend. Put yourself in his place, how would you feel if he did that too you.
All of the above. Honestly, I do still have feelings for him, but I refused to show it...especially to him. I feel like there was definitely a lack of closure with how we stopped talking. It was just one of those things where I got SO tired of hearing myself say the same things to him; and him not really addressing my concerns but instead, changing the subject or doing something to make me laugh. After 2 years, it just wasn't funny/cute anymore and I gave up; stopped answering his calls, ignoring his texts because at that point, there was nothing that I haven't heard from him in the past and the "relationship" was just going in circles...Off then On, Off then On.
But I do miss him, and I constantly think about him. I kind of think that he feels the same way, but I'm not sure. He's very good at avoiding conflict and not really showing his true feelings. But at the same time, he could be happy without me and just not give a d***. In which case, I really need to move on with my life. But I think it's the "unknown" that has me holding on.
There's a lot of really good comments, but unfortunately...I've tried most, if not all of them. I've changed my number when we were "Off" in the past, but just felt guilty and ended up calling him. I also think about the bad things that he did when we were together, but then I start to think about the good things that I miss, and I'm in Lah-Lah Land all over again.
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