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Hi, I met this girl through Facebook 3 months ago, we started talking a lot daily. We both are from Mexico and she was doing her medical internship in Europe when we met through Facebook. A month later she returned from Europe and we have been dating for about a month, she broke up from a 3 year relationship 6 months ago because her boyfriend went to another state to make his medical service and he dumped her, he was very emotionally abusive with her, she is surprised that I treat her so well. We have very good chemistry and great spark. So well, we have been dating for about a month, we had already held hands and kissed a lot. On saturday I told her asked her to be my girlfriend and she told me that she we should wait for being a couple, she says we should keep dating and knowing each other. She told me she is overwhelmed because of her medical service and that she is afraid to get hurt again because of her past relationship but she told me that if we just keep dating and knowing each other till the end of the year she will be ready by then and become my girlfriend. She says she wants me to meet her parent and friends before being her boyfriend. After we spoke this on saturday she sent me a text saying that she wants to enjoy every step we take, she wants to explore many things with me and that it will be great. I don't know if she wants to keep me in the back burner or what. The other issue is that she will go to Europe or New York to make her masters degree in one year and a half, I don't know what to do, if cut the looses right now or just see where things go. I don't want to get hurt. I don't know if she wants friends with benefits before a commitment. Any tips?. Im 28 years old and she is 24.
Just take it slow man. Date her and see where things go, while keeping your own options open. If I had to guess, backed by my own experiences, she doesn't want the responsibility of being in a monogamous relationship at this point. At 24, its expected. Here is what you do, line up some other dates and go out and have fun. Dont go out of your way to let her know you have other options, but when she asks - be real and tell her. Example: she calls you and says "you want to hang out this Friday?" you say "Sorry I already have plans" she says "what are you doing", you say "going out on a date with Pam/Shirley/Sahniqua...". If she really cares about you, she will change her tune quickly. Nothing turns women on more, than seeing a man with options, trust me.
Exactly. Exclusivity means boyfriend/girlfriend right?. Im not in a relationship with her even though she says she wants take things slow I can keep dating other women. What she meant is that we are not a couple but as we are taking things slow I cannot date other women?
Hi, I met this girl through Facebook 3 months ago, we started talking a lot daily. We both are from Mexico and she was doing her medical internship in Europe when we met through Facebook. A month later she returned from Europe and we have been dating for about a month, she broke up from a 3 year relationship 6 months ago because her boyfriend went to another state to make his medical service and he dumped her, he was very emotionally abusive with her, she is surprised that I treat her so well. We have very good chemistry and great spark. So well, we have been dating for about a month, we had already held hands and kissed a lot. On saturday I told her asked her to be my girlfriend and she told me that she we should wait for being a couple, she says we should keep dating and knowing each other. She told me she is overwhelmed because of her medical service and that she is afraid to get hurt again because of her past relationship but she told me that if we just keep dating and knowing each other till the end of the year she will be ready by then and become my girlfriend. She says she wants me to meet her parent and friends before being her boyfriend. After we spoke this on saturday she sent me a text saying that she wants to enjoy every step we take, she wants to explore many things with me and that it will be great. I don't know if she wants to keep me in the back burner or what. The other issue is that she will go to Europe or New York to make her masters degree in one year and a half, I don't know what to do, if cut the looses right now or just see where things go. I don't want to get hurt. I don't know if she wants friends with benefits before a commitment. Any tips?. Im 28 years old and she is 24.
OP, you posted this exact same topic, pretty much word for word, a week ago. Go see the responses on that thread.
Exactly. Exclusivity means boyfriend/girlfriend right?. Im not in a relationship with her even though she says she wants take things slow I can keep dating other women. What she meant is that we are not a couple but as we are taking things slow I cannot date other women?
When a girl really likes a guy, and you've put in the effort to act like her boyfriend for a month or two, and she really likes you, she can't wait to be your girlfriend. She doesn't say stuff like "let's wait till the end of the year".
She's using you as a crutch till a guy she REALLY likes comes along. Till then, she gets most of the outward benefits of a boyfriend (you taking her on dates, saying nice things to her, going to parties/events with her so people don't think she's a loser, etc.) while you are on an emotional roller coaster for six months (!).
If it were me I'd cut my losses, end it, and date and soon meet a woman that after a month or two of dating can't wait to be my girlfriend.
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