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I lost the drive to get a girlfriend years ago when I was 18. I am a very lonely person. I have friends. But I want a girlfriend. I consider myself a virgin because most of my experience has been with hookers or sex workers. I have never had a girl like me. I don't know what it is. I came here to post because I need to let this out. I don't think I have ever kissed a girl sober. I made out with a girl when I was 11.
I don't know what it is. I play college basketball and am currently attending a Southern California community college. I have plans to transfer to Stanford. I excel in school and I love sports. The details of my current community college and basketball team will not be revealed for obvious reasons. I have played Soccer, Basketball, and football for city leagues and school teams. I'm athletic. But none of this has ever helped me. I know I don't fit the mold for the stereotypical virgin. Thank God I have a passion for exercise because without I don't ow where I would be. Since I don't receive love from girls, I go looking for it in sports and physical activity. Unfortunately I don't have the body to be able to play overseas and I am doing too good in school for me to pursue basketball. The sad thing is I am nearing towards the end of my career. About 4 months ago I tore my ACL in both knees so eventually I have to let basketball go. I don't know what I would do with my time without the court. I would love to spend my time with a girl but I can't imagine being with a girl.
Perhaps I am hideous? I hear girls don't go for looks as much as guys but to what extent does this apply? Iv been called handsome and good looking but I don't believe it. I see girls all the time that I would want to date but It seems too strange to talk to them. Girls have never really liked me. In fact, my whole life, they have hated me. When I was younger they were mean and by the time I got into High School they just ignored me. Girls often told me that they nor anyone liked me. It seems like a foreign concept to me. I see other guys talk to girls but it just doesn't seem like something that happens in my life. I can't see myself flirting with a girl I don't know how to flirt. I know I'm not good looking but I don't deserve to be treated like this.
I desperately want to change. Sometimes when I drink or smoke I cry thinking of the pitiful loneliness that is my life. Can I get some advice of any sort? I grew up in a single parents household without a father, I hear that has something to do with this.
Last edited by Idontevenknowbro; 06-30-2015 at 06:55 AM..
Most people feel weird about approaching someone new; that's the reality of putting yourself out there. You might get rejected, or you might not. Either way it's a win because you either get a date out of it, or you get some practice and develop thicker skin. The thing with most women is, even if we're not interested we'll still be flattered.
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Originally Posted by Idontevenknowbro
I don't know I feel like normal people find me weird and I feel like they don't want to talk to me.
Just take the plunge and talk to other people. Don't expect anything, just work on connecting with men or women socially. Flirt with the girls, but don't expect anything. Just get more comfortable. (If you can't say Hi to a girl, you need to start somewhere.)
You play college basketball and have been called handsome by some people, so it's not that.
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