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Just take the plunge and talk to other people. Don't expect anything, just work on connecting with men or women socially. Flirt with the girls, but don't expect anything. Just get more comfortable. (If you can't say Hi to a girl, you need to start somewhere.)
You play college basketball and have been called handsome by some people, so it's not that.
These don't really mean anything. Society places a lot of value on looks so if someone were to compliment you they would most likely use your looks. Everybody has been called good looking or cute by others. I don't think I am hideous but I know you are judged by your looks. My looks have probably played a role in the way things have gone for me. And most of my teammates have been to jail, or don't even have high school level writing or math skills. Most of them are unprepared for life after basketball. The stereotype of the athlete surrounded by females is like the least true sterotype.
I don't know I feel like normal people find me weird and I feel like they don't want to talk to me.
Does your CC have a counseling center? If so, go for the free counseling, and see if a counselor can figure out what you're doing wrong. If it doesn't have one, wait until you get to Stanford, and go to their counseling center.
These don't really mean anything. Society places a lot of value on looks so if someone were to compliment you they would most likely use your looks. Everybody has been called good looking or cute by others. I don't think I am hideous but I know you are judged by your looks. My looks have probably played a role in the way things have gone for me. And most of my teammates have been to jail, or don't even have high school level writing or math skills. Most of them are unprepared for life after basketball. The stereotype of the athlete surrounded by females is like the least true sterotype.
You're obsessing about looks, even though you said people say you're good-looking, so it's obviously not that. You can't use looks as an excuse, because people have told you you're good-looking. It sounds like you probably need to develop social skills. Get involved in campus clubs or events that don't involve sports. If you're a techie, join the geek club (there will be women geeks there). If you're into writing, attend the poetry or writing open mics. (Women love those!) Find something happening at school or in the community that you can participate in regularly, so you can meet women, and practice getting along with them.
I don't know I feel like normal people find me weird and I feel like they don't want to talk to me.
You're projecting a lot of negative feelings from strangers onto yourself. It's highly unlikely that most everyday people you come across are actively thinking you're weird or hating you or avoiding you. Granted, most people out and about are lost in their own thoughts and doing their own thing, but it doesn't mean that you're being judged harshly.
It's a relationship, just like your male friendships are relationships.
So somehow you were able to form male friendships. Stop thinking about women like creatures on a shelf and start thinking about them as people.
Good point.
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Originally Posted by Sommie789
That is a problem .
You cannot connect with females.
Yea no kidding.
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