Handling Rejection Like a Boss (date, women, sex, mature)

[santafe400]

Especially for women. If you politely reject a guy say after a first date and the dude is like "no worries" and acts very mature and polite about it, do you find that your opinion of him often improves due to his confidence and maturity as many dudes seem to take rejection way too personally. Your thoughts...

[elnina]

If I reject a guy (politely, of course) then him saying "no worries" and acting "mature" is not going to change my mind.

[MissClutterbuck]

Originally Posted by santafe400

Especially for women. If you politely reject a guy say after a first date and the dude is like "no worries" and acts very mature and polite about it, do you find that your opinion of him often improves due to his confidence and maturity as many dudes seem to take rejection way too personally. Your thoughts...

No

I expect him to behave like a mature adult and deal with it.

Just because I reject someone doesn't mean I thought poorly of him. I just wasn't into him like that.

[Ruth4Truth]

Originally Posted by MissClutterbuck

No

I expect him to behave like a mature adult and deal with it.

Just because I reject someone doesn't mean I thought poorly of him. I just wasn't into him like that.

This. It's not about thinking poorly of him, it's just about it not being a good match. How he handles the rejection doesn't change that.

[MissClutterbuck]

Originally Posted by Ruth4Truth

This. It's not about thinking poorly of him, it's just about it not being a good match. How he handles the rejection doesn't change that.

It's more of a shock to me when men do act like jerks over rejection, because I expect people overall to behave maturely.

[intelfan11315]

I'm a guy, but I find it pathetic for either sex to get worked up over rejection.

Standard behavior does not make my opinion of someone go up, it's only what is expected. If someone reacted poorly, I'd think less of them.

[BirdieBelle]

Originally Posted by MissClutterbuck

It's more of a shock to me when men do act like jerks over rejection, because I expect people overall to behave maturely.

Agreed.

For most sane people, rejection is not a test. It's a statement that the two are not a match.

It's not like, "I don't think it's gonna work out. What? No tantrum? Oh wait, just kidding."

[Katnan]

Originally Posted by burgler09

Standard behavior does not make my opinion of someone go up, it's only what is expected. If someone reacted poorly, I'd think less of them.

^^^^^^^^^ this.

[Auraliea]

The worse you react to being rejected...the more your lack of self confidence/esteem shows.

Seriously why give someone THAT much power over how you feel, when they more than likely are no better than you are? I understand it's painful...but flipping out and ranting over it is just unnecessary and childish.

[santafe400]

The worse you react to being rejected...the more your lack of self confidence/esteem shows.

Seriously why give someone THAT much power over how you feel, when they more than likely are no better than you are? I understand it's painful...but flipping out and ranting over it is just unnecessary and childish.

So true. However, how many times have we heard of grown men who should no better insulting women who simply did not share the same feelings. How is that supposed to make any sane women want to reconsider her decision? Rejection handled with a little coolness, simplicity, and grace can speak volumes.