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Thanks everyone. It is something I've been battling. I forgot to mention one instance, we had been dating 3 months and we were eating at a local Mexican place. She said she was going to pay and that she needed to use the restroom, I told her I'd go ahead and head out, well I was waiting outside when I see her running out and one of the guys working there behind her saying "You didn't pay, you didn't pay" and grabbed her arm, she pulled out a $20 and threw it at him, he said not to ever come back unsurprisingly. I admit that was when if I were going to leave I should have but I didn't.
Thanks everyone. It is something I've been battling. I forgot to mention one instance, we had been dating 3 months and we were eating at a local Mexican place. She said she was going to pay and that she needed to use the restroom, I told her I'd go ahead and head out, well I was waiting outside when I see her running out and one of the guys working there behind her saying "You didn't pay, you didn't pay" and grabbed her arm, she pulled out a $20 and threw it at him, he said not to ever come back unsurprisingly. I admit that was when if I were going to leave I should have but I didn't.
It's like Bonnie and Clyde. As long as you are with her, you could easily be viewed as an accessory to the deed.
She's a compulsive shoplifter. It may have less to do with the fact that she didn't have much stuff as a kid than with, possibly, a lack of love and affection from her parents when she was a kid. She can either get therapy for it (there are therapists who specialize in this), or you could decide she might be too much of a liability (what if the cops catch her, and she tries to hide stolen goods in your car, or your pocket, or whatever?)
I have known of CD before but only made an account now because there is an issue I am having but not sure what to do. First off both me and my gf are 28 and have been together 2 years and been living in an apt for a little over 6 months.
But to my main issue is my gf has a very bad habit of stealing things whether they be clothes, underwear or just little trinkets. She has been arrested for stealing multiple times and she has even told me she remembers the first time she stole something was when she was 12. I have talked to her and asked her why and she says it's because all her life growing up she was very poor, hardly had anything, lived in a trailer in a trailer park for her whole life. She doesn't talk about it much but I can tell her up bringing REALLY affected her.
She is amazing in all other ways she does work in retail but doesn't make much, never been to college either. She is very nice an attentive and is a great cook and fun to be around. She never steals real BIG items but like I said she has small items if she thinks she can get away with it. Like the other day we stopped at the gas station and she went in to pay, when she came out as we were leaving she pulled out a lighter and said she swiped it. I kind of just rolled my eyes and said she better be careful or she'll get caught again. But she has gotten very good at stealing and when we first got together she managed to get a collection of stolen undies and such from Victoria's Secret.
I know, I know you all are going to say "Are you crazy what does it matter what her other qualities are she's a borderline kleptomaniac!" but I don't think it's that simple. While I am not justifying her behavior I will say when she does steal she doesn't steal from friends/family or other people just big box stores and the like.
And believe me, I keep good track of what I have so if she ever did steal from me I'd know but I don't believe she ever has.
Borderline?? No.
She IS a kleptomaniac.
It is a huge problem. And your last line is disturbing. Is it all ok as long as she doesn't steal from you???
I have known of CD before but only made an account now because there is an issue I am having but not sure what to do. First off both me and my gf are 28 and have been together 2 years and been living in an apt for a little over 6 months.
But to my main issue is my gf has a very bad habit of stealing things whether they be clothes, underwear or just little trinkets. She has been arrested for stealing multiple times and she has even told me she remembers the first time she stole something was when she was 12. I have talked to her and asked her why and she says it's because all her life growing up she was very poor, hardly had anything, lived in a trailer in a trailer park for her whole life. She doesn't talk about it much but I can tell her up bringing REALLY affected her.
She is amazing in all other ways she does work in retail but doesn't make much, never been to college either. She is very nice an attentive and is a great cook and fun to be around. She never steals real BIG items but like I said she has small items if she thinks she can get away with it. Like the other day we stopped at the gas station and she went in to pay, when she came out as we were leaving she pulled out a lighter and said she swiped it. I kind of just rolled my eyes and said she better be careful or she'll get caught again. But she has gotten very good at stealing and when we first got together she managed to get a collection of stolen undies and such from Victoria's Secret.
I know, I know you all are going to say "Are you crazy what does it matter what her other qualities are she's a borderline kleptomaniac!" but I don't think it's that simple. While I am not justifying her behavior I will say when she does steal she doesn't steal from friends/family or other people just big box stores and the like.
And believe me, I keep good track of what I have so if she ever did steal from me I'd know but I don't believe she ever has.
I'd leave her ASAP because when she gets caught stealing and you are with her, you too will go down even if you didn't steal anything. Try getting a job or a passing background check after that. NOT!
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