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Absolutely. A man who is a protector and a provider, is attractive to women. Selfish men, for example, are attractive to women. They signal that as potential mates, they will likely be also selfish with benefit to a future family unit. This is fairly simply stuff, not rocket science.
Selfishness and relationships generally don't mix well.
I held onto my nice guy and he's held on to me. :-) over two decades now!
My advice to younger women...find the nicest guy you want to be in a relationship with and find incredibly attractive. men don't become nicer after committing/ marriage. That jerk you are dating will be a bigger jerk after marriage. Find the person you want to be with, because they won't change.
I held onto my nice guy and he's held on to me. :-) over two decades now!
My advice to younger women...find the nicest guy you want to be in a relationship with and find incredibly attractive. men don't become nicer after committing/ marriage. That jerk you are dating will be a bigger jerk after marriage. Find the person you want to be with, because they won't change.
I'm sure your husband is a nice guy as in a kind, good man, but I bet he's not a "Nice Guy" they are two different things. And the latter are not very nice.
The problem with nice guys is not that they are nice; they are probably something else in addition to being nice, such as being lazy, being boring, not knowing how to court a woman, having poor self confidence, being nice out of despair not because they are nice by nature, being nice but acting weird, etc. If a guy knows how to treat a woman, is stable emotionally, knows how to take gentle charge, and is nice - he will keep a woman interested. Niceness is not a problem, it's an asset.
The problem with nice guys is not that they are nice; they are probably something else in addition to being nice, such as being lazy, being boring, not knowing how to court a woman, having poor self confidence, being nice out of despair not because they are nice by nature, being nice but acting weird, etc. If a guy knows how to treat a woman, is stable emotionally, knows how to take gentle charge, and is nice - he will keep a woman interested. Niceness is not a problem, it's an asset.
Unless they just don't really have anything else going on and fall back on "well, I'm nice..."
There is a singles ad on a site where I post, where this guy who has been trying to get something going on for months finally got all fed up and was upset that "he's a really nice guy and no one is giving him a chance, and what is he doing wrong??" That thing. Well, he has tried to initiate conversations with me about a bajillion times, and I ignore him...I don't ignore everyone, but I ignore him. Why? #1- His constant attempts make him sound super thirsty, despite his most recent post being about wanting to make friends with no expectations. #2- (And this is HUGE) He has nothing of substance to say. I get message after message that's like:
Hi.
Hey.
What's up.
How are you?
Hey.
I have a wall of text on my profile on that page, which should indicate that I am pretty darn literate and probably prefer intellectual discourse over a conversational "poke." And in that particular community of folks, most are fairly geeky and intellectual. He looks geeky, but he comes off like a moron. Nothing of substance whatsoever to say.
Now, I've been told that if you're a guy, it's a "numbers game." You fire off hundreds of "Hey" messages to hundreds of women, and someone is bound to like your pic (or heaven help us, your "d" pic) and respond. If this is a successful strategy, then why do so many of these men wind up playing the "woe is me, what am I doing wrong?" game? I'll probably see this player out at the bar on Friday, we're both going to the same social gathering there, and I'm gonna tell him why his approach falls so flat. At this point, just due to the fact that I said, "yeah feel free to say hi, I'm friendly. " he probably thinks I'm a sure thing for an intimate encounter. Nope.
Just general lack of compatibility. Because nice isn't everything. Or lack of attraction.
Also a lot of self proclaimed "nice guys" aren't that nice.
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" he probably thinks I'm a sure thing for an intimate encounter. Nope.
