Guy getting dressed immediately after sex (guys, single, young, personality)
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I don't get why theres anything wrong with that. If it was at night and you were going to sleep, well yeah, that would be weird. But if it was during the day, yeah, get dressed, and go do something else. You didnt say if he had something else to do.
Look, if you have been dating someone for a month leading up to the moment where she feels comfortable enough to sleep with you, one would hope you would have enough sense to act like you actually give a crap about her as a person and not a piece off bootay you are now done with. That kind of thing is to be expected with one night stands, not someone you've been building a relationship with. If he/she took their time to get with you in a dating context they were expecting more than "okay, now get out of my bed" as a response. Yeesh.
Even if you have somewhere to go it is expected you will treat the person with more intimacy than that.
I don't get why theres anything wrong with that. If it was at night and you were going to sleep, well yeah, that would be weird. But if it was during the day, yeah, get dressed, and go do something else. You didnt say if he had something else to do.
Depends. If you're FBs then it's not a big deal. If you're in a long term relationship and past the point of needing to impress each other. But the first time together, in what was presumably a romantic relationship, a little afterglow (and perhaps round 2) is customary.
Last edited by Ginge McFantaPants; 08-23-2015 at 02:33 PM..
Well for this guy he is either a player, and now that he got his, he wants you to leave.
Or he was interested, then the sex sucked, or wasn't good as he hoped, so he was done after that.
Either way, his actions show he either doesn't care much for you, or he could be a person who just lacks the kind of intimacy some expect. I have even heard of some married couple where they have sex, then roll away from each other and go to sleep. No afterglow, basking. or snuggling. And least he folded your clothes, as opposed to throwing them at you when you came out.
No telling. But either way, you and this guy aren't a match apparently. But if it was only a few dates, not too much harm. least longer period of time wasn't devoted to him.
Last edited by HappyRain; 08-23-2015 at 03:37 PM..
Hmm...a little bizarre to be sure. I'm guessing he was a two-minute commando with the sex and didnt exactly rock your socks off? Sounds like He probably has a small wee-wee, since he didnt want you to see him in the non-aroused state after sex. And he might have a little fetish with womens underwear and watching them dress/undress. Did he watch you undress before the sex too? I dont think there's really anything too wrong with any of this about him; lost of guys like watching a woman get dressed/undressed. I used to love laying in bed and watching my wife get dressed in the a.m.--she always had to get up earlier than me back then. The weirdest part of this cat's behavior is the laying out your clothes for you. If I was a woman and a dude did this it might be a deal breaker, if the sex also was lousy.
You never said: did he watch you get dressed? What was he like when he did this? Did he, like, orchestrate you getting dressed, telling yo to go slower or anything? This for sure would allude to a fetish for this. But that's a pretty harmless fetish I think.
I've been dating a guy for a month and the most recent date was partially at his place. We had sex (for the first time) and once it was finished, I excused myself from the bedroom to go to the bathroom only to come back less than a few minutes later to find him fully dressed and....he had neatly arranged my underwear, bra and clothes at the end of the bed waiting for me to dress in them. He was just standing there with a weird smile. I was shocked and still am. It was extremely awkward. Needless to say, I left very shortly after that but I have never encountered such a hurtful and strange after-sex behavior.
This is more of a vent than anything, but if anyone can share any thoughts or words or anything, I would appreciate it.
If you feel weirded out or creeped out, go with your gut feeling. Move on to a guy who doesn't freak you out. There are plenty of guys out there who'd love to cuddle after sex. Or at least, roll over and fall asleep, lol.
BTW, what did you do at that moment? You could have asked why he was dressed, and gotten back into bed, inviting him for an encore. That way he wouldn't have had the satisfaction of seeing you dress on command.
Extremely weird. I actually said "this is very weird" while dressing. Still very hurtful. You just don't expect for your clothes to be neatly assembled and ready for dressing when you get up to use the bathroom after being intimate with someone for the first time.
OP, I think there was something pervy about it, judging by the weird smile. I don't think it had anything to do with the quality of the sex. Or maybe he just figured he'd reached his goal of one more notch on his belt, and got a thrill out of throwing women out as soon as that's achieved. Did he say anything? My inclination, unless the vibe was too weird, would have been to ask what's going on, and gotten back into bed, and maybe asked him why he was dressed.
Hmm...a little bizarre to be sure. I'm guessing he was a two-minute commando with the sex and didnt exactly rock your socks off? Sounds like He probably has a small wee-wee, since he didnt want you to see him in the non-aroused state after sex. And he might have a little fetish with womens underwear and watching them dress/undress. Did he watch you undress before the sex too? I dont think there's really anything too wrong with any of this about him; lost of guys like watching a woman get dressed/undressed. I used to love laying in bed and watching my wife get dressed in the a.m.--she always had to get up earlier than me back then. The weirdest part of this cat's behavior is the laying out your clothes for you. If I was a woman and a dude did this it might be a deal breaker, if the sex also was lousy.
You never said: did he watch you get dressed? What was he like when he did this? Did he, like, orchestrate you getting dressed, telling yo to go slower or anything? This for sure would allude to a fetish for this. But that's a pretty harmless fetish I think.
Yes, it was rather quick (more like 5 minutes), but these things happen so I would never judge based on one occasion.
He was already dressed and standing next to the bed when I came back into the bedroom, and no he didn't orchestrate my getting dressed.
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I was shocked and still am. It was extremely awkward. Needless to say, I left very shortly after that but I have never encountered such a hurtful and strange after-sex behavior.
