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On another thread in another forum a fellow CD member made to me the below statement:
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I do find it incredibly sad that a fit guy like yourself doesn't seem to mind letting others eat themselves to illnesses or death.
In the context of that discussion my reasoning is that it is a matter of personal choice. That a person should be free to live his or her life as they see fit and if weight gain is a product of their decisions then so be it. And while that member and I "exchanged pleasantries" on that thread, I actually agree with him on several other issues so I hope there are no hard feelings.
But it echos a question I've faced many times ever since "coming out" as a chubby chaser: "How can a fit guy such as yourself choose to date fat women?"
So I wonder: How does being a fit guy have anything to do with it? On some level I can see the idea of shared values regarding fitness, but why is it so hard for people to see this isn't something that everyone engraves in stone? Why is it so difficult to accept that a fit guy can have a preference for overweight women? Surely people can fathom that their own preferences are not universal and just because one has a hobby or value for himself doesn't necessarily mean he will insist on his partner having that same value.
Are we talking just overweight or truly morbidly obese to the point they can't do anything....
For me, just overweight. I draw the line somewhere. I'm not sure where exactly that is, but it's definitely there. I've never dated one who was immobile or generally unable to participate in daily life with society. Also, keep in mind I'm married now. So when I talk about dating, I'm talking about hypothetical unless otherwise noted (ie, a specific experience from earlier in my life).
As men, we often value physical beauty. The female form is at peak beauty when it is height-weight proportional, thin, or fit and feminine.
To many, yes this is true. But that is not a universal truth and some guys, probably a lot more of them than are open about it, prefer thicker, softer, etc.
My sister is over weight and is extremely active. She has run chubby since she was a little kid.
She can do anything her active BF does.
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Yeah, but it's not always a matter of one being an arsehole. Sometimes it's genuinely a matter of not understanding preference then being confused when confronted with someone whose preference does not align to society's comfort zone for these sort of things.
Yeah, but it's not always a matter of one being an arsehole. Sometimes it's genuinely a matter of not understanding preference then being confused when confronted with someone whose preference does not align to society's comfort zone for these sort of things.
I really don't care about others' opinions of me. But I have an inquisitive mind and like talking about this from time to time.
As for how large, I've dated everything from super fit/athletic to 300+ pounds and many points in between.
So you've dated fit/athletic women, that would mean you're not only attracted to overweight women. Anyway, Years ago I remember seeing a personal trainer from my gym out with his gf, and to my surprise she was on the heavier side. Lots of really fit guys like heavier women, lots of fit guys like fit women, to each his own. I've never judged anybody by the appearance of who they date, and yes you can be overweight and still be healthy and active.
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