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I'm 24 and even though masturbation has usually been enough to satisfy me nowadays curiosity is getting the best of me. Not that I have any huge expectations regarding sex, especially when I don't have any experience, but now I'm starting to think an escort may be a good idea to get over with it.
I'm not interested in a serious committed relationship, just a friends with benefits. But that's incredibly hard to get, no matter how modern and open minded we all think society is right now. Besides, I'm a discreet guy, not cocky and loud like you have to be these days if you want a casual relationship.
So does anyone has any experience with this? Do you think it's a bad idea?
I think it's not a bad idea, if you get the right person and you leave with more confidence. That confidence will help you meet other girls. I wouldn't do it randomly though, you need the right person and not someone who is going to be strict and have rules about not kissing and getting in and out fast...you might have to put up some decent money to get someone who will take time with you and hopefully help you out with some pointers as well. Just do some research and don't pick just based on looks, and be safe about it.
I honestly don't think it's that bad of an idea. No worse really than losing it drunk at some bar or house party. If you use protection and she is really attractive, then why not? If she is just ho-hum in the looks department than I would wait.
Just do it and get it over with...please be sure to insist on using protection...and as I'm sure some guys will note, take care of yourself beforehand for a more enjoyable paid experience.
However, be sure you're not looking for some kind of an emotional experience or revelation - money's not gonna get you that!
It's fine, as long as you realize you will probably have to outright lie about your "first time" for the rest of your life. Friends and partners do talk about this stuff casually and there is a huge stigma against sex workers still. So expect the side eye from a lot of folks if you tell the truth.
Having to make up a story wouldn't be worth it to me...personally I'd wait.
I don't think it is a bad idea. This is actually quite a bit more common than you think.
The challenge is finding an escort that will provide the experience worth your "first time". You really do get what you pay for. Go with a "known" agency and explain to them... the really good ones will know how to accommodate your needs. It will cost yah... Do your research. You will also need your identity verified for the protection of the girls and to weed out those not really serious about the experience. Some are uncomfortable with that although I've never heard of anyone misusing that information.
You need to be upfront with what you are looking for in the experience.. with both the agency and the lady. They are their for you and no one else. Don't be shy with specific requests.
Most common working girls you find on the street or locally are high volume business only girls. Basically go in and out... mechanical experience. Their rates are cheap however I don't think that's the experience you want for your first time. Stay away from backpage and craigslist and the like. Avoid.
Also, some agencies will push/feature former porn stars and such. Avoid them as well.... they are geared towards their fan base. Very much not what you expect when comparison to porn. A girl that is good on camera is not generally good in person... two very different things.
If you are rich, make a day out of it... go on a trip with the lady.. and end it with a nice night together. I've been told that helps some get over their anxieties of going out on dates... Builds some confidence when it comes to being with a real date.
Finally, Do not.. i repeat, do not confuse relationship and FWB with seeing an escort. It complicates things... remember this is a business only. It is their job to provide the experience you are paying for. Some are very good at making your feel like the King of their world. I've seen this happen a few times.... I always feel sorry for the fellow.
One last note... please treat these women with respect. You pay them for their time but not to own them.
This is very much a taboo subject... so be prepared for criticisms. I wouldn't pay much attention.... this is a less than ideal world we live in. So the take away... do your research.. be upfront.. you get what you pay for.
I think it's not a bad idea, if you get the right person and you leave with more confidence. That confidence will help you meet other girls. I wouldn't do it randomly though, you need the right person and not someone who is going to be strict and have rules about not kissing and getting in and out fast...you might have to put up some decent money to get someone who will take time with you and hopefully help you out with some pointers as well. Just do some research and don't pick just based on looks, and be safe about it.
Thank you.
Yes, I'm prepared to spend quite a lot of money to get a high-end service. I'll look into it.
Just do it and get it over with...please be sure to insist on using protection...and as I'm sure some guys will note, take care of yourself beforehand for a more enjoyable paid experience.
However, be sure you're not looking for some kind of an emotional experience or revelation - money's not gonna get you that!
Protection is not even the question, it's a must whether you do it with an escort or any other woman.
No, I'm not looking for anyhing romantic or emotional, I'm just interested in physical relationships.
Not a bad idea if you were older and more desperate, but at your age? I think you might need to find a chick the old-fashioned way. You're young enough to where it would actually be kind of sweet that you're still a virgin. If you ask most chicks, they will tell you their first time wasn't all that and wished they waited.
Sex seems like a huge deal when you're not getting any. Believe me, I know. But if you do wind up meeting a special lady down the road, do you really want to tell her your first time was with an escort you spent half your take-home pay for because you just had to get laid? Because I can tell you now, you're not gonna know much more than you know now after one sesh with an escort. You might become acquainted with certain, uh, smells, but that's about it. You're gonna be nervous and anxious and self-conscious with the next girl even if you do hook-up with an escort.
I say use the money you would spend on an escort and buy a gym membership, Match.com and/or OKCupid, and a nice pair of shoes. Buy some nice cologne, learn to like the taste of whiskey, and find a nice bar with girls your age to go to. Winning over tail is much more rewarding than paying for it.
At your age I think it would be a very positive experience. like others have said, use a rubber. your confidance should improve after the experience. Be willing to put up a good amount of cash so you can get a good experience with someone that is attractive. More ppl than you think use prostitutes, they just dont talk about it alot. just think, as you get more comfortable. you could get two of them at the same time, thats a good present to save your money for.
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