Lack of sexual experience hard on relationships (how to, man, lover)
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I'm 29 and until last year I was a virgin. Every guy I meet at my age, wants a woman with more sexual experience than I have. I've been upfront about myself with all the guys I've dated and all said they were ok with dating a virgin. So I met a guy a couple years ago, became good friends, and then started dating, and was ready to go all the way with him. We tried it, didn't go all the way, and it started to become awkward. So we agreed to try again another time. Shortly afterward, he started to avoid me and we stopped dating. But we kept in touch. I continued to date, not finding a the right guy for me. Recently, me and my ex started dating again was still upfront about my virginity. This time we did have sex and I did lose my virginity. Though it was still kinda awkward and whatnot. I don't think he gets that it's going to take some time for me to get more comfortable with my sexuality. But now he seems to be avoiding me again. I don't want to go through all this again. No matter what it seems like my lack of sexual experience just hurts any relationship I try to have. I don't really know what to do at this point.
as mentioned before, lack of experience is not that much of a concern for women as men are expected to take the lead. In addition it does not take much for a man to reach the end but it's way harder for a woman to do that so most of the pressure is on the man.
I'm 29 and until last year I was a virgin. Every guy I meet at my age, wants a woman with more sexual experience than I have. I've been upfront about myself with all the guys I've dated and all said they were ok with dating a virgin. So I met a guy a couple years ago, became good friends, and then started dating, and was ready to go all the way with him. We tried it, didn't go all the way, and it started to become awkward. So we agreed to try again another time. Shortly afterward, he started to avoid me and we stopped dating. But we kept in touch. I continued to date, not finding a the right guy for me. Recently, me and my ex started dating again was still upfront about my virginity. This time we did have sex and I did lose my virginity. Though it was still kinda awkward and whatnot. I don't think he gets that it's going to take some time for me to get more comfortable with my sexuality. But now he seems to be avoiding me again. I don't want to go through all this again. No matter what it seems like my lack of sexual experience just hurts any relationship I try to have. I don't really know what to do at this point.
I would love to meet a woman like you; I think it's very sexy that you have not given yourself to many men. You will find the right guy sometime.
It sounds like you may have just met some typical men, they expect too much from sex and simply use women for it. If that is not the case, perhaps your inexperience made him insecure about his ability to pleasure you. I would imagine you may not be as expressive during sex due to insecurities, for some men this is an issue.
Avoidance is also a sign of weakness. I am all about directness; I let people know when I want nothing to do with them. It saves both parties from misunderstandings and gives closure to all.
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