Wife finds sex toy (man, partner, relations, reason)

[oh-eve]

Originally Posted by BlackBlackRoses

A few weeks ago my wife found a sex toy [bleep] that I had purchased a few weeks before. When she found it she just went nuts. In the end, I threw it out because I thought it wasn’t worth the hassle. Now I'm desperate, I don’t find sex satisfying with her and that was my release. What am I supposed to do?

Use your hand like almost everybody else??

[zentropa]

Is this real? It seems unbelievable that a man with a healthy attitude toward love and sex would prefer an inanimate object to a woman he loves.

Porn addicts are another story.

[rego00123]

Tell your wife your sexual gratification does not involve her unless it is in the moments you are sharing it with one another or going against the foundation your marriage is born on.

She doesn't own your sexuality or how you choose to personally pleasure yourself in private moments.

If you have other issues in your marriage regarding sex, look to getting to those first.

There isn't really enough info here to understand her if her position is systemic of others issues related to the relationship or she just doesn't like you having a sex toy.

[timberline742]

Originally Posted by zentropa

Is this real? It seems unbelievable that a man with a healthy attitude toward love and sex would prefer an inanimate object to a woman he loves.

Since when are they mutually exclusive things? People in relationships self satisfy as well. It's normal and healthy. They are often very separate activities.

[Tominftl]

I can't understand why your wife gets upset. Maybe you should sit her down and have a talk. If she doesn't want to give you a hand, what does she suggest? That's the kind of things that drive people apart. If she had a vibrator, I'm sure she would use it whether you liked it or not. Maybe that's what she needs.....

[melovescookies]

Ok, I googled it (and promptly erased my history.) I'm no prude but I would be somewhat disturbed if I found that in my husband's things. There's nothing wrong with sex toys or masturbation but there is something wrong when a person prefers sex with an inanimate object over sex with the actual human being that they share their life with.

I'm just picturing the wife looking for a flashlight during a black out and finding this thing instead. Imagine her surprise when she goes to turn it on and discovers what it really is.

[rego00123]

Originally Posted by melovescookies

Ok, I googled it (and promptly erased my history.) I'm no prude but I would be somewhat disturbed if I found that in my husband's things. There's nothing wrong with sex toys or masturbation but there is something wrong when a person prefers sex with an inanimate object over sex with the actual human being that they share their life with.

I'm just picturing the wife looking for a flashlight during a black out and finding this thing instead. Imagine her surprise when she goes to turn it on and discovers what it really is.

The bigger question is why doesn't he enjoy sex with his wife, not why he uses a sex toy to feel gratified.

[fleetiebelle]

Originally Posted by rego00123

Nowhere has it been said he PREFERS it over his wife.
That is posters asserting their own personal interjections.

I don't know, you don't have to be Sherlock Holmes to deduce his preference from this statement:

Now I'm desperate, I don’t find sex satisfying with her and that was my release.

[MissmamaAnnie]

Why does it matter to your wife one way or another if you use a sex toy? lol

[rego00123]

Originally Posted by fleetiebelle

I don't know, you don't have to be Sherlock Holmes to deduce his preference from this statement:

Worded my post different to avoid the gaggles of finger pointers

There isn't enough connecting points to know anything. He may want to have sex often with his wife but she could not be willing (for a variety of reasons) so the offset to the desire is the sex toy.

We don't know, we only know his wife hates the use of a sex toy and he isn't satisfied without self pleasure.