Wife finds sex toy (boyfriend, loving, friend, daughter)

[timberline742]

Originally Posted by melovescookies

Ok, I googled it (and promptly erased my history.) I'm no prude but I would be somewhat disturbed if I found that in my husband's things. There's nothing wrong with sex toys or masturbation but there is something wrong when a person prefers sex with an inanimate object over sex with the actual human being that they share their life with.

I'm just picturing the wife looking for a flashlight during a black out and finding this thing instead. Imagine her surprise when she goes to turn it on and discovers what it really is.

Should a guy have an issue if his partner has a vibrator? It's no different.

And plenty of people are in relationships where the sex life doesn't quite get them there. It doesn't mean they don't care about that person. For some reason the majority of people on this board seems to think a woman just needs to be there and the dude will be satisfied. Nothing can be further for the truth and there are lots of women that just aren't that good in bed, sadly. And no, lots of things can't be taught.

[JasperJade]

Originally Posted by zentropa

Is this real? It seems unbelievable that a man with a healthy attitude toward love and sex would prefer an inanimate object to a woman he loves.

Oh, I don't know. Sometimes a person just wants what a person can do themselves and not have to worry about someone else's needs or the whole production of foreplay and sex, no matter how much they love their partner and how good the nookie with the partner is.

Not saying that is what's happening here, because the good nookie is already missing from their marriage, which is a problem that should be addressed. But just saying, love and self-release often don't have anything to do with each other.

[convextech]

Originally Posted by BlackBlackRoses

A few weeks ago my wife found a sex toy [bleep] that I had purchased a few weeks before. When she found it she just went nuts. In the end, I threw it out because I thought it wasn’t worth the hassle. Now I'm desperate, I don’t find sex satisfying with her and that was my release. What am I supposed to do?

You should have test-driven the car before buying it. Sounds like Buyer's Remorse to me.

[1orlando]

A new wife might do the trick

[convextech]

Originally Posted by melovescookies

Ok, I googled it (and promptly erased my history.) I'm no prude

You just contradicted yourself there, you know.

[zentropa]

Originally Posted by timberline742

Since when are they mutually exclusive things? People in relationships self satisfy as well. It's normal and healthy. They are often very separate activities.

Not separate in this case, he said he needed the toy BECAUSE of his wife.

[rego00123]

It was his release to not enjoying sex with his wife is what was said.
He could love his wife to death, but sex for whatever the reason isn't satiating his desire for it.

We don't know why he isn't enjoying sex with his wife.

[timberline742]

Originally Posted by zentropa

Not separate in this case, he said he needed the toy BECAUSE of his wife.

Right. I still don't see the issue. If he isn't getting satisfied with his wife he should just suffer? I dated people I didn't get sexual satisfaction with (orgasm) very often. I'm not going to not get off because of it, and no, just because I'm not orgasming with them doesn't mean the sex is bad. But sometimes it wasn't good sex and the relationship was still worth it at the time. This is a complex question.

[lucky2balive]

Originally Posted by oh-eve

Plug your butt with something else that she won't consider a sex toy.

lmao

"honey.,.what are you doing with my thumb"
"um...nothing...go about your bizness...nothing to see here"

[Charles22]

I don't know what the problem is, but you probably haven't been using "SILK" sex lube. You can get it at some CVS pharmacies and at others.

I don't know what is in it but it makes her and me get REALLY excited. Everything feels REALLY good.