Why won't my girlfriend commit and move in with me? (dating, marry)

[oh-eve]

Why would he propose if she doesn't even want to live with him???

[convextech]

She's got a side piece.

[fluffythewondercat]

Originally Posted by ErnestIn

She says we will live together eventually, but I feel its always on her terms.

Whose terms should it be on?

I get the feeling you're trying to force the issue because you think she's drifting away from you.

[mishigas73]

Originally Posted by oh-eve

Why would he propose if she doesn't even want to live with him???

Some people want more of a commitment before they move in with someone?

[riaelise]

I didn't live with any of my past lovers, regardless of duration. Just not my thing.

When I married, I sold my apartment and we got a new place together.

She probably sees the relationship is nothing but a casual relationship, even after 8 years.

[theluckygal]

Wow 8yrs!!! That's a really long time. Give an ultimatum. Either she commits or you get out of the relationship & cut your losses.

[carnivalday]

Originally Posted by theluckygal

Wow 8yrs!!! That's a really long time. Give an ultimatum. Either she commits or you get out of the relationship & cut your losses.

How can she commit to him if he hasnt even proposed marriage? I think she's smart as heck. How many times have we read of girls moving in with guys and then years later they are still waiting on a marriage proposal which never comes. Duh.

Smart girl!

[rrah]

To put it into proper perspective, how old are each of you? I'd say if you are both in your 30's or older, it's an issue. Any younger, and you probably met when you were "babies."

[stan4]

Originally Posted by ErnestIn

I've been with my girlfriend for 8 years now and she will not commit. She says we will live together eventually, but I feel its always on her terms. I love her dearly but I feel I'm wasting my time and we will never be together. I've got to the point now that maybe I should finish the relationship.

Why don't you commit and ask her to marry you?

[theluckygal]

Originally Posted by carnivalday

How can she commit to him if he hasnt even proposed marriage? I think she's smart as heck. How many times have we read of girls moving in with guys and then years later they are still waiting on a marriage proposal which never comes. Duh.

Smart girl!

I see your point. She wants a marriage proposal, not a live in relationship. Good for her. Its good to have some rules & stick to them. 8yrs is a long time to make ur mind abt marriage