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I've met people who were not incredibly complex or good at hiding their character or motives, and had a very good feel for the sort of person they were in minutes.
I've known people who hid certain truths from everyone around them, with consummate skill, for many years.
I've discovered new depths in people I've known, and been delighted with new surprises and layers.
I've met someone and within just a few meetings felt like I'd known them my entire life, or in a past life (which I honestly don't believe in.)
I've had someone insist that they have changed, and then prove to me that they have not, and people that I thought I knew well just pull a complete 180 on me.
I've known pathological liars, that I loved, even though I always knew they were lying. I just didn't place anything of great importance into their hands...but being around them was nonstop entertainment.
I would never place a time frame on how long you can expect it to take to really get to know someone. It's as varied as human beings are varied, which is to say, a lot.
I would say a year or two with a regular (non sociopath, etc) person. I've always roughly figured that 1-3 months you geting hormones, 3-6 months the mask wears thin, 6 months-year your getting the real deal, year to 2 years truth comes out of those trying to hide stuff.
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that perfect women you marry today...in 20 years...she will be different...sometimes a totally different person...hopefully you change with her, together, in the same direction...most times you don't
My wife and I met through online dating, and kept it online for a while. We both had a strong feeling things were right before our first date. Things just got better after that.
I am a strong believer in knowing yourself. If you know yourself, and are honest with yourself, you will do much better in picking someone else and getting a real idea of who they are.
Just wondering how long it took you to find out who your partner really was and if he/she was or was not the right one for you. I seem to usually figure the person out after about a year, whether friends or a partner, and how they fit in or don't fit in my life. What about for you?
I didn't realize until about 10 months that my ex-gf was bat**** crazy.
I didn't realize until about 10 months that my ex-gf was bat**** crazy.
Yeah, my husband felt the same way.
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It's best to see them in every situation. Bad, good, stressful, accidental. Small groups of friends, family, alone time, with kids, pets, elderly, homeless, rush hour traffic....
These situations should bring out the demons. Then get them drunk. If they are nasty, mean and want to fight well that's their inners squirting out. We hope they are flirty, laughing and fun when drunk.
So, you only look for bad outcomes?
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