Before the thread gets hijacked...
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Originally Posted by susman
You don't seem really focused... and the fact that you physically and mentally don't put yourself in opportunities to successfully get what you are in search for, which is sex, has resulted in 2.5 years of voluntary celibacy.
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I mentioned that I have been going out quite a bit recently in the past several months (by myself) with the purpose of meeting new people, and potentially more. I feel that every time I purposefully go out with the intent of finding sex, it never happens. Ever. And this is far from voluntary.
I have a relatively laid-back personality and am definitely not the aggressive type. I don't think I can change that. When I try hard it feels incredibly unnatural, is often met with apprehension, and tends to turn girls off. What is strange is that being laid-back and not trying too hard has worked for me in the past. I've dated and have been able to attract very pretty women without a ton of effort. Granted, I had a large social network built up over the years that definitely played into my success at the time.
So...you're probably thinking I should be more social and make more friends. I have friends. Quite a few actually. Just not "drinking buddies" or ones that want to go out on a Friday or Saturday night, which is why I typically go out by myself. It gets worse the older you get when people start exiting the bar/club/late nights out scene.
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Originally Posted by Question2015
Maybe it has something to do with the fact that you view sex as something that women have to be lured into. Don't be such a white knight, women love sex.
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I don't think women have to be lured into sex. In fact, many of the one night stands that I've had in the past have been initiated entirely by the girl. This is why I am somewhat baffled that this has persisted for so long.
If I wanted sex with any random girl, I could actually probably have it. I do have standards, fortunately, but it is definitely acting as a barrier I think.
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