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Last night, I saw someone I didn't date through online dating. Basically, through chat, I discovered the person was kind of nasty. I don't like personalities like that, so I moved on. The short story is I was trying to set up a date and they kept cancelling and coming up with excuses and when they suggested another time and date that didn't work for me, they sent a message saying, "Are you even able or interested in dating!?" I just figured, forget it, there are happier fish in the sea, and ignored them from then on. Not too soon after that, I found my honey online (who is upbeat, and wonderful), so it didn't really matter.
Anyway, at first the person just seemed familiar and I couldn't figure out why. Then I placed it all (which surprised me because I am terrible with remembering people). Of course, I was staring while trying to make the placement and this was noticed so I smiled, nodded and looked away. No smile back, just a scowl. For a second I thought I might be confronted, but I wasn't. To be honest, they just looked miserable and dour--very unapproachable. One of those people with a permanent frown and body language that reads, don't talk to me.
I wonder if I was noticed too? Of course, it doesn't matter since I found someone wonderful anyway and nothing came of this encounter. It was just kind of weird in a "small world" kind of way.
Was wondering if that ever happened to any of you? And if so, was it as uneventful as mine (don't think I was recognized other than my looking and trying to place the face). Heh, wonder if they are on a forum now talking about the creep that stared at them (didn't mean to, but I just needed to figure out how I knew the person).
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I was on a date last night and ran into someone I went out with a few times and she wasn't feeling it and said "no thanks" to another date. Made some small talk and moved on. Whatever.
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I just got ghosted by a woman in online dating who works at a supermarket near my stepfather's apartment and she works in the bakery department and makes the best fudge cookies I can only get at that market. Ugh. Maybe I'll check another location out in the exurbs.
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I just got ghosted by a woman in online dating who works at a supermarket near my stepfather's apartment and she works in the bakery department and makes the best fudge cookies I can only get at that market. Ugh. Maybe I'll check another location out in the exurbs.
Last night, I saw someone I didn't date through online dating. Basically, through chat, I discovered the person was kind of nasty. I don't like personalities like that, so I moved on. The short story is I was trying to set up a date and they kept cancelling and coming up with excuses and when they suggested another time and date that didn't work for me, they sent a message saying, "Are you even able or interested in dating!?" I just figured, forget it, there are happier fish in the sea, and ignored them from then on. Not too soon after that, I found my honey online (who is upbeat, and wonderful), so it didn't really matter.
Anyway, at first the person just seemed familiar and I couldn't figure out why. Then I placed it all (which surprised me because I am terrible with remembering people). Of course, I was staring while trying to make the placement and this was noticed so I smiled, nodded and looked away. No smile back, just a scowl. For a second I thought I might be confronted, but I wasn't. To be honest, they just looked miserable and dour--very unapproachable. One of those people with a permanent frown and body language that reads, don't talk to me.
I wonder if I was noticed too? Of course, it doesn't matter since I found someone wonderful anyway and nothing came of this encounter. It was just kind of weird in a "small world" kind of way.
Was wondering if that ever happened to any of you? And if so, was it as uneventful as mine (don't think I was recognized other than my looking and trying to place the face). Heh, wonder if they are on a forum now talking about the creep that stared at them (didn't mean to, but I just needed to figure out how I knew the person).
Lol, do some people just not care that they're essentially hypocritical?
It was okay for her to not agree on a time that doesn't work for her, but then when you do it, she thinks you can't or don't want to date her, lolz...
But I do run into people I've rejected on a regular because a lot of the guys at my school have asked me out. It's a little awkward, especially when we share that "awkward glance." I usually hurry away or go sit with my friends. However, some of the people in the group I hang with are dudes I didn't go out with but we get along just fine.
One of the first guys I went on a date with back in May when I started doing OLD...I did not exactly run into him, but it was a near thing, and I'm always a smidge aware that it could happen.
I was really put off by him during our date, and he is too young for me anyways, but I enjoyed our text convos a lot. Because at first I wasn't really finding anyone worthwhile, he was a "maybe" in my mind for a while, and I didn't cut him off, just kept talking to him and dodging making a decision about hooking up with him. It was a question of whether I was craving company (and sex) enough to get with a dude that I really didn't like that much, and wasn't that attracted to, and the eventual answer was NO. I waited a bit and found more suitable people to get involved with. Eventually things tapered off even in text, and I told him that he was too young for me and it wasn't going to happen.
But before that, when he was a "maybe" leaning towards a "no" I found out that he was doing karaoke in a different area of a bar that I was in one night, and I remember being glad that we didn't cross paths. It would have been awkward. There is a monthly social gathering at that bar that I go to, and I'm always a little bit aware of the room where karaoke is happening and the fact that he could be in there, step a little smartly past the doorway hoping not to be seen if he is.
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