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There's this guy at school who I met just before tg break, he's very sweet, interesting, etc., and has been coming over to our dorm room frequently (like 4 nights last week) to play music with my roommate, her boyfriend, and me, as well as hang out and talk. He's very quickly becoming a good friend and I'm also developing feelings for him. We connect really well as friends, and we stay up later and later talking, sometimes just the two of us. I'm just concerned about getting friend zoned. I think it's possible he could be interested in me but it's very hard to read because we enjoy each other as friends so much, and he's such a sweetheart so of course he's really nice to me. I dunno if he's ever flirted with me exactly, other than to compliment me, but he compliments my roommate too,so... Anyway, I'm not sure where to go with this situation? Do I tell him I like him? And if so, when and how? Or should I wait to see how it develops cause if he really does like me it'll work out and if not I won't risk losing a friend?
Thanks guys
Next time the two of you talk, tell him you really like him and are wondering how he feels about the two of you being more than just friends. Anything less than an enthusiastic response is a no.
And, no, this will not mess up the friendship as long as you let him know it is fine if he doesn't return you feelings.
If he's coming over four nights a week he probably either likes you, your roommate or her boyfriend. The safe bet is that it is you that he likes. I personally would tell him or strongly hint that you like him. You could be subtle or wait for things to happen but I've found waiting can backfire.
If he doesn't like you. Things will be awkward at first but if he's good friendship material both of you should recover relatively quickly and get back to having the great rapport you have together now.
...Or you could try the old "What would you say if I told you ... I am really starting to like you" kind of line. It removes the pressure a little and allows the person to answer without it being too personal or definite. He could then tell you what he is really coming over for - maybe.
Of course, it could be that he likes his friends gf too and wants to try his chances, but since he chats to you afterwards, it may not be that.
Can you get your friend/roomate to tell her boyfriend that you really like him? Then the guys can chat together and things would be clearer perhaps?
Rather than initially telling him how much you like "him", tell him how much you enjoy it when you get to "visit with him" or "spend time with him" and you look forward to "visiting with him again".
Less confrontational, same idea gets across.
If he responds that he likes spending time with you as well, then invite him out somewhere, just the two of you!
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