A friend told me he had a crush on me. How to tell him I can't be friends with him anymore? (women, love)
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It is with a heavy heart that I have to say it, but a friend just told me he had a crush on me. Unfortunately, I can't retun his feelings and told him so. He said he is ok with being just friends and that "eventually I may change my mind".
Being romantically involved with him is absolutely not something that I will ever desire. It's sort of like being with my brother (I did NOT tell him that part though)
At this point I don't think I would be comfortable continuing our friendship since now there is an ulterior motive on his part. It also sounds like drama in case I do meet someone I am interested in and will have some explaining to do on why I'm still friends with a man who I know wants, well, more... Not to mention the fact that I don't want to be stringing the poor guy along for a pseudo-friendship and giving him false hope that he has a chance.
How can I break it to him that it's over? It's really sad. He is probably hurt and I don't want to make it worse
Just get straight to the point and say "Hey I think it isn't a good idea to stay friends, but I wish you the best of luck." I mean that's want you want, who cares if his feelings are hurt a little.
"I appreciate you being honest with me about your feelings but this changes everything. I just can't continue in this friendship anymore. I wish you well."
Crushes are a dime a dozen, don't dramatize it so much. You said, "No," now see if you as well as he have the common sense to let it die. Right now it sounds like an aria from a third-rate opera.
I think he should know that you DO love him as a brother but not in a romantic way and that it would be unfair to allow him to think things will change.
Then tell him you want to take a break in your friendship in order for him to find someone else.
There is no easy way to let him down here. He likes you a lot, and felt comfortable enough to put this out in the open and tell you this. Your response is going to be to end any sort of relationship with him. He will be hurt and there is no way to avoid him being hurt while ending the friendship.
You can be compassionate, but be sure to get your feelings across. Let him know you do not share those feelings and do not feel that would change. In addition, let him know you need to step back from the friendship since you are uncomfortable with the kind of tension his desire for more will place in the friendship relationship.
Here I thought women can be friends with the opposite sex. Ghost him! It's not like you're going to remain friends.
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