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Yanno OP...self confidence is what is the sexy part. You are who you are. A mother of 2. Stretch marks can be seen as battle scars.
I m 53. I birthed 3 children! One of them a small whale. I am 5'2"...he was 8.15 on the baby whale scale. And I have the stretch marks to prove it.
I am also ancient....and gained weight when the peri-menopause monster hit me..back in 2009. But I have never given up sex, nor enjoying sex...naked.
It is time to regain your sex mojo OP. Embrace your female curves and enjoy them while still young and fresh. We weren't always meant to have 22 year old bodies. If we didn't have curves.....we'd all just be scrawny gangly 14 year old boys
P.S. I have since lost 55# ...halfway to goal. Don't give up...mold that body into what you see in your minds eye
^^This. I used to need a tall glass of wine before I loosened up enough to take it all off.
I went through the same thing after by first baby was born; even after getting back into shape it was hard to come to terms with the fact that stretchmarks are forever. (Anecdote: I was so clueless about all of this that, one day when the women at work were talking about stretchmarks and stretched out skin, I was all "Wait, that's permanent? Why am I just now hearing about this??"). My brilliant idea of doing it through a whole in the sheets ("Honey, wouldn't it be so romantic and mysterious?") was not met with enthusiasm, (and neither was my cutting out a picture of my face, taping it to a body in the Victoria's Secret catalog, and mounting it on the headboard) so booze and candlelight had to do. It took time. Yes, you are self-conscious and uncomfortable, but you're always going to be holding back with your husband if you're not willing to be vulnerable with him.
Y One of them a small whale. I am 5'2"...he was 8.15 on the baby whale scale. And I have the stretch marks to prove it.
That's like my oldest: I'm 4'10 with no hips, and he was a 9 pounder, thus the source of my stretchmarks, lol. They make a nice trump card now when he's getting mouthy. I hike up my shirt a tad, point to the battle scars and say "Look at this. The least you can do is quit giving me a hard time."
But lately he has become frustrated with this and wants me to be fully naked.
You have half the battle won right here ^^^.
The other half is in YOUR head.
I understand what you're saying, because I went through a time when, well, let's just say that I couldn't get into it unless we started a certain way and i was wearing a certain thing that could only be removed to a certain point. It's just a mindset that results from a combination of factors, but you can work through it.
One of the benefits of being in a committed relationship is that you and your partner can work through problems like this and have these times of insecurity while still secure in the knowledge that you will be there for each other and that you both have the same goal in mind.
It's not always easy to just strip down and go at it "warts and all." It's beyond insecurity. It can be a turnOFF.
So I advise you to talk to your husband and get him involved in helping you get over this obstacle. The things that will help are honesty, low or no lights, and yes, wine.
Maybe the two of you can find some middle ground for now and slowly work your way to full blown nudity. The shorts and undies have got to go! Perhaps the next few times just try it with a sexy nightie on top and with the lights off. Then maybe you can work your way up to the nightie top on but with soft candles in the room. After you get comfortable with that try starting with the top on then take it off after you've begun. Eventually you can work your way to being totally naked.
I know everyone is telling you to just get over your hang ups and get naked but for some people it's not that simple. Is it possible to save up for a tummy tuck? It's not going to cure all your naked problems but it might make you feel a little better about your body. Good luck.
OP-your husband wants you. WANTS=DESIRES. He finds you desirable as you are.
He doesn't see the stretchmarks...as negative. Part of the whole sex department...is having the "DESIRE" for that special someone. I find it more of a turn on to be desired. That is so much part of the equation.
As a man I find pajamas, tank top, underwear during sex a huge turnoff. My wife has stretch marks and it doesn't bother me in the least. My advice is not to cool hubby's ardor or else you may have no sex at all if he tires of this.
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