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Maybe it is me but dating wise, I have noticed that women in their 20's tend to be extremely superficial. With internet dating average women are easily able to find men out of their leagues to have sex with as guys drop their standards for sex. These women in my opinion would never make good wives when they decide to settle for the simple fact its like winning the lottery and never been able to cash in because these guys won't commit to them.
Honestly, if I wasn't 6'5"and didn't work out regularly, I would wager that my dating life would be a complete dud. Of course this isn't the case for all women.
Apps and online dating didn't "create" any new behavior. They simply multiply the results of existing behavior, because now people can be exposed to a far greater group of people. Narcissists were always narcissists. Superficial people were always superficial. Settlers would always settle.
If someone decides to act a certain way towards 100 people that they meet in real life, the only thing that online networking allows them to do is to act that same way towards 1000 people instead.
There were superficial women way before there were dating apps. Superficial men, too. But technology has had some effect on people...less patience, more desire for constant mental stimulation, and entertainment, and instant gratification.
Also, people in their 20's have always been...kind of immature. Especially early 20's. Your prefrontal cortex ain't done cookin'. Sometimes people who just don't really know who they are yet can be mistaken for being essentially superficial. They haven't had the time or experience to gain the wisdoms.
Maybe it is me but dating wise, I have noticed that women in their 20's tend to be extremely superficial. With internet dating average women are easily able to find men out of their leagues to have sex with as guys drop their standards for sex. These women in my opinion would never make good wives when they decide to settle for the simple fact its like winning the lottery and never been able to cash in because these guys won't commit to them.
Honestly, if I wasn't 6'5"and didn't work out regularly, I would wager that my dating life would be a complete dud. Of course this isn't the case for all women.
OP, many women in their 20's don't have to do OLD. They meet men IRL. You should try it. You may be pleasantly surprised with the results. 20-something women are starting businesses, launching their own non-profit orgs, volunteering for enviro orgs, tutoring or mentoring HS kids, playing in bands, or going to grad school. They're looking for good guys, non-superficial men. Where are you?
I think the Internet age has created some weird relationship dynamics. Some partners are so focused on getting the perfect porn angle they forget about the whole having fun part.
It is now easier to be superficial. We all have access to multiple publishing channels to share every thought, whim and picture.
I think this has pushed out people's inner narcissist, the people who wouldn't have crossed over now do.
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OP, many women in their 20's don't have to do OLD. They meet men IRL. You should try it. You may be pleasantly surprised with the results. 20-something women are starting businesses, launching their own non-profit orgs, volunteering for enviro orgs, tutoring or mentoring HS kids, playing in bands, or going to grad school. They're looking for good guys, non-superficial men. Where are you?
These busy/building/creating/active in the community types are the most likely to do OLD when they want to date, from what I see. They're too busy to meet people the traditional ways.
OP, many women in their 20's don't have to do OLD. They meet men IRL. You should try it. You may be pleasantly surprised with the results. 20-something women are starting businesses, launching their own non-profit orgs, volunteering for enviro orgs, tutoring or mentoring HS kids, playing in bands, or going to grad school. They're looking for good guys, non-superficial men. Where are you?
He is busy working out and being tall, and thinking about "leagues." That's where. Clearly, it is the women who are being very superficial here.
That was kind of snarky. But the point is that everyone can fall into thought processes in dating that might not be very productive or kind to others. People is people. Don't like the experience you're having in dating? Find a different pond to fish in, I say.
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