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I was in a serious relationship for over a year and fell head over heels for the guy. Was in love with him, talked kids, marriage, etc. Eventually things came to an end. I hopped on Tinder shortly after for shts and giggles and now I'm crushing hard on this new guy I'm talking to/dating. I wake up everyday to just a "good morning sunshine" text (go ahead and cringe) or something along those lines and it gives me butterflies.
Just a few months ago I thought I would never move on and I wanted to get back together with my ex but now I barely remember him when I talk to this Tinder guy. Could it be that I didn't really love the ex as much as I thought? I've dated other people prior, but with him I felt different, and I was pretty convinced I was in love. Surely, people don't move on that fast when they love someone though right?
How fast does it take you guys (and gals) to move on? I'm feeling a bit guilty for moving on so fast
I move on from most relationships quickly, due to the fact that one relationship from my past has basically rendered all other relationships as being insignificant.
That other relationship was over a decade ago, but still has me really screwed up. Just this morning, I woke up with my arms wrapped around a giant pillow in my bed and realized when I opened my eyes, it wasn't her. Really messed up my morning on a whole new level.
I move on with my life as soon as I can, but me 'moving on' doesn't mean jumping right back into a relationship. I always give myself ample time to reflect from a failed relationship.
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I'm feeling a bit guilty for moving on so fast
I think, you're feeling a bit guilty, because you're not over your ex.
Don't feel guilty for moving on. Why should you feel guilty. Usually people try to make relationships work, even when they know it probably isn't. So once the break comes, they've known it for some time, so its like "finally its over" Time to move on to something new. The person who would have a harder time is the person who got dumped suddenly without a hint that there was a problem. They're going to be saying "what happened and why?" for some time.
I've only been in one long-term relationship other than marriage. We were together for 5+ years and engaged, but we were young and had grown apart. We got along well and never fought, but we were just on different paths in life. When he broke up with me, I took my ring off and decided to wait a week for him to call. He didn't so I got back out there. I was sad but not devastated.
Be careful of the rebound. I dated a guy and told him I just wanted to have fun, nothing serious as I had just been in one for years. He ended up telling me he loved me and I really hated hurting him. Just remember that Mr. Wonderful has feelings too.
It has been two months for me and I am enjoying dates in a stand alone way but I miss the closeness I had with my ex. It is hard for me to get excited or be 100% focused on another. I'd rather not date at all really but opportunities came up I shouldn't miss.
It is hard for me to get close to people overall coupled with few quality people to meet that like me as well means relationships can be few an far between. My last one was really exceptional, no way he is replaceable on any level. I feel that way though about any guy I deeply care for.
But, some people operate on a different level, which is fine. Your prior relationship is over, you can date whom you choose, just always be upfront about your intentions.
The better question is how fast do you move forward after a break up. What others do does not apply to you and what you do. There is no right, wrong or time frame that is appropriate for everyone. If you want to date then date, if not then don't.
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How fast does it take you guys (and gals) to move on? I'm feeling a bit guilty for moving on so fast
Don't. This is a rebound relationship. That is fine. They're helpful. But they come to an end too and often there is more mourning after.
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