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It seems like a guy can lose respect for a woman if she lets him get too comfortable too soon but how soon is too soon? And how can you tell if a guy doesn't respect a woman?
I tend to joke around a lot and make fun of myself and the guy. I feel like guys can get too comfortable around me too soon. They'll touch my butt on the first date and say they felt "comfortable" around me, or play slap me on the second date. Another guy would call me stupid in a joking way or ask me if his friend could feel how muscular my butt is. Taking these things out of context sound really bad but it's not like I don't say something if it doesn't bother me. I have an easygoing personality and can joke like a guy, but I'm starting to worry if this is translating to men to treat me like another dude. I guess I don't really know how to act otherwise.
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I don't know.
I'm an old lady, and in all my years I've never seen guys touching each others buts to see how muscular they are. Maybe gay guys do it, but I don't know any gay guys THAT well, so again - I don't know. Ive been in gay clubs with relatives, and never seen that.
Based on that personal experience, I wouldn't think they were treating me like one of the guys.
If it was me I would consider it disrespectful. I would try not go crazy on them, but smile as soon as it happened, and say something like, "Hey, you don't got it like that!" or "Don't be grabbin'", or maybe both.
Sounds to me like they are testing their limits. Its up to you to set those limits. At the very least, another person can get the wrong idea about you.
It sounds like you don't respect your self enough to be offended, when some guy treats you with so little respect.
I never treated my wife that way even being married.
It seems like a guy can lose respect for a woman if she lets him get too comfortable too soon but how soon is too soon? And how can you tell if a guy doesn't respect a woman?
I tend to joke around a lot and make fun of myself and the guy. I feel like guys can get too comfortable around me too soon. They'll touch my butt on the first date and say they felt "comfortable" around me, or play slap me on the second date. Another guy would call me stupid in a joking way or ask me if his friend could feel how muscular my butt is. Taking these things out of context sound really bad but it's not like I don't say something if it doesn't bother me. I have an easygoing personality and can joke like a guy, but I'm starting to worry if this is translating to men to treat me like another dude. I guess I don't really know how to act otherwise.
I don't think it has anything to do with that. I am also very easygoing and joke around a lot and no one has ever asked me "if his friend could feel how muscular my butt is." That is not something one guy says to another guy anyway.
If this is a regular occurrence, you are really just choosing the wrong guys and I agree with the others---it really comes off as a lack of respect for yourself; you teach people how to treat you. And please, choose other guys to go out with than these winners.
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I guess I don't really know how to act otherwise.
