Did this have an affect on how your love life turned out. (wife, boyfriend)

[Ccjones808]

Here we go...
1) two parent household ( man and woman )

2) two parent SAME SEX household

3) foster care

4) single parent household ( mother or father )

5) grandparents

6) relatives ( aunts, uncles, siblings ect )

7) other

I think I covered them all.... Now I'm very curious what kind of home did you grow up in? What type of relationships did you witness growing up? How did it affect your love life?

Here's a little bit about my situation...
I grew up living with my grandmother most of my childhood. My mom was present but she was very young. My grandmother eventually moved back to her home town and left her grand children behind. By the age of 9 I was living with my aunt and her kids. That situation lasted 3 years. My grandma came back and my cousins an I moved in with her. I just sort of bounced around til I was 17. I moved in with my aunt again, then my dad, then a different aunt, then my mom, my aunt again and FINALLY moved in with my current boyfriend when I was just 17.

The only time I witnessed a two parent household was when I moved in with my second aunt. I envied and wanted what she had. Every other adult I grew up around were single parents and bounced from man to man and woman to woman. Before I met my current boyfriend I was pretty promiscuous, a wild child I shall say. I dated LOTS of different guys. When I met my boyfriend we were both wild. I was also touched on my a step uncle and was sexually active at a young age.

We've been together a few years now... We're in our early 20's I can admit the relationship is very toxic. I just want to know based on the way I grew up is there hope for me. I dream of being happily married someday with the person I have children with ( my boyfriend )

Thanks for reading

[oh-eve]

I grew up with my parents. Man and woman. Small town. They are still together. About 50 years now. Wow. Still hold hands sitting on the couch and in public. Rarely have friends because they have each other. They are very conservative and strict.
I only fall for bad boys and I was trouble when I was younger.


I only witnessed households like mine when I was a kid. I met the first person with divorced parents when I was around 17.

[timberline742]

I don't think it has. My parents were married until my father died. My mom believes you have on marriage in life, and she never dated again after. But I don't think that affects me other than I don't believe in starter marriages and I pretty much think I have one shot at getting it right.

[Ruth4Truth]

Originally Posted by Ccjones808

We've been together a few years now... We're in our early 20's I can admit the relationship is very toxic. I just want to know based on the way I grew up is there hope for me. I dream of being happily married someday with the person I have children with ( my boyfriend )

Thanks for reading

Are you working? Do you have health insurance? There's hope for you if you can get counseling to deal with what sounds like a chaotic and possibly at times traumatic childhood. Heck, even being raised by a variety of family members and bouncing around without a dedicated, steady caregiver, can be traumatic. There could be abandonment issues, or other things. Look into free clinics in your area, if you have no way to pay for counseling. My bet is that you need to heal before you can have a healthy relationship.

[zentropa]

My parents were married more than 50 years. I have been married once, for 20 years, which was my only serious, live-in relationship.

[Auraliea]

I grew up in a normal household with both my parents until they split up when I was 14.

I didn't really pay attention to other people's relationships until I hit 16 and wanted a boyfriend for the sake of having one. So far I haven't had any official relationships with anyone. Only crushes that never went anywhere. I don't see myself with anyone honestly. I highly doubt my life growing up has anything to do with this.

[hell_storm2004]

It may or may not I guess. Everybody is different. I grew up with my parents but with close connections to the rest of the family.They are married 32 years now. But since most of grown up life has been abroad, I mostly saw married folks around me. Divorce was so rare back when I was a kid.

[JustJulia]

My parents are still married and there's very little divorce in my family. My husband and I just had our 20th anniversary. However, his family has several divorces (his mom was wife #2 out of 3) and he had a tumultuous upbringing. We're very different in that regard.

[Stagemomma]

Two parent household, mom is mentally ill, dad was her co-dependent. I was not confident about finding the right guy, so I married the one I got, then was not a good wife to him, since I had no idea what a functional relationship looked like.

My ex was not so great at marriage either, and his parents were really pretty functional. I've matured now, he hasn't, so I don't know what that says about the advantages of the nuclear family. Mine forced me to be become smarter, but also more detached.

[elnina]

Those six posted (family structure) are no major factors that affect your love life.

The factors that can affect your love life, as listed by some ^^^, are: (in no particular order)
care, conditional/unconditional love, attention, affection, divorce, abuse, neglect, poverty, toxic stress, addictions, mental health, death, stability, influence, bonds, parenting styles, role models, respect, ethics, security, quality of parenting, personality, authority, commitment...

Kids can experience any of this in all factors you listed. Where you grow up doesn't matter that much than how you grow up...