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Relevance??? It matters more than cup size or penis length in terms of compatibility.
You can be at totally different life stages.
You may not be able to relate to each other as easily based on background and formative experiences.
Your friends might even have difficulty mixing/relating.
That's just off the top of my head.
I think in this case, when OP and her date are actually sitting in front of each other, it's pretty clear they are in the same generation. I may not know someone's exact age, but if the person I'm sitting with is 48 I'm not going to wonder if he's 28 and whether we'll be compatible, lol.
Well, I'm very open about discussing my favorite music...the year I graduated, not so much.
This isn't even something I'm concerned about just in terms of meeting guys. I recently received a message from a woman in a Meetup group asking me if I'd like to go to lunch with her some time (as friends). She's in her early 20s. I don't think she would've messaged me if she knew how old I am, and I don't want to tell her.
In all honesty, if striking up a friendship is hindered because the potential friend is bothered by an age gap, that's probably not a person I'd be all that interested in being friends with, anyway.
I've always had friends who span a pretty wide age range. At my first job, which I worked through my twenties, a coworker became a good friend. She was my mom's age. At another job, I had a classroom full of paras who were just out of college. I was midthirties. I was friends with quite a few of them. If I wasn't friends with them, it was due to factors other than age...typically it was attitude-related.
I really only ever did online dating, so it wasn't something I really thought about or had to deal with. I can't say I'm bothered by being asked my age.
I have no issues telling people my age. I had friends in their 40s whilst I was in my 20s. It really wasn't an issue for any of us. If someone doesn't want to befriend you coz of your age, then move along to the next. A friendship started on trying to be deceitful mmhh....
ok, first let's keep things realistic re: your speed dating event.
1. other people fudge/lie about their age too. Unless the speed dating organizers swipe drivers licenses thru a reader you never know
2. other people legitimately look younger than their numerical age
3. time is not kind to some - they have been beat by the ugly stick and left out in the sun. I've seen men lose their hair at 23 and I've seen 26 yr old women with crows feet you could see from across the room. And I've seen 40-somethings that nobody would *believe* they are 40 something.
4. You dont get "that much time" to talk to each person. And they may or may not "check the box" to see you again. So relax and just let it flow.
But ask the question of yourself, even if you wont answer it publically on the forum - what do you GET out of passing yourself off as significantly younger? Concealing your age in conversation? Do you get a thrill? Do you want a bunch of 20 something girlfriends and boyfriends?
Are you mourning the loss of your younger self? Are you going to have 'less options' now, or will other people have power over you if they know *your age*, (gasp)
So what are you motivations:
a) date someone younger
b) date someone same age
c) date someone older
d) date someone regardless of age, just whoever has the magic chemistry that makes you swoon?
I too, look young for my age. I never really ask a woman her age, because I dont need to. A couple rounds of conversation, her demeanor, some close observation I can usually tell. But my ultimate criteria (in a dating context) is pretty simple: is she fine, and younger than me? That's all I really need to know for small talk.
I do object to the people who ask within the first few questions "how old are you?" because it is a rude question, like someone asking 'what kinda car you drive?' or once I even got 'what's your job title?'. it's not so much that I cannot supply the information, I wonder how my answer will alter what you think about me, and how you will treat me. For instance - the conversation could stop on a dime if 1 person is under/over "30", but it'd still be going if you didn't know the answer.
ok, first let's keep things realistic re: your speed dating event.
1. other people fudge/lie about their age too. Unless the speed dating organizers swipe drivers licenses thru a reader you never know
2. other people legitimately look younger than their numerical age
3. time is not kind to some - they have been beat by the ugly stick and left out in the sun. I've seen men lose their hair at 23 and I've seen 26 yr old women with crows feet you could see from across the room. And I've seen 40-somethings that nobody would *believe* they are 40 something.
4. You dont get "that much time" to talk to each person. And they may or may not "check the box" to see you again. So relax and just let it flow.
But ask the question of yourself, even if you wont answer it publically on the forum - what do you GET out of passing yourself off as significantly younger? Concealing your age in conversation? Do you get a thrill? Do you want a bunch of 20 something girlfriends and boyfriends?
Are you mourning the loss of your younger self? Are you going to have 'less options' now, or will other people have power over you if they know *your age*, (gasp)
So what are you motivations:
a) date someone younger
b) date someone same age
c) date someone older
d) date someone regardless of age, just whoever has the magic chemistry that makes you swoon?
Well, I guess part of the issue is that I do tend to like younger guys and always have, so even when I was in my 20s I felt too old for whoever I was interested in at the time.
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