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Location: Fort Bend County, TX/USA/Mississauga, ON/Canada
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What is the best way to deal when your SO is in a bad mood?
I came home & my husband is in a horrible, mood. Doesn't want to talk, kiss, converse, or anything. Wants to be left alone & started cursing out the banks in this country/health insurance (he's European) What do I do to thwart this? Just let him be. I hate being ignored, but so does he. On his own terms of course, when I want to talk, he doesn't want to & he can be very dismissive of my feelings (I don't like it at all & have told him numerous times)...
What is the best way to deal when your SO is in a bad mood?
I came home & my husband is in a horrible, mood. Doesn't want to talk, kiss, converse, or anything. Wants to be left alone & started cursing out the banks in this country/health insurance (he's European) What do I do to thwart this? Just let him be. I hate being ignored, but so does he. On his own terms of course, when I want to talk, he doesn't want to & he can be very dismissive of my feelings (I don't like it at all & have told him numerous times)...
I wish I could contribute but I just wanted to hug you for not saying 'conversate'.
What is the best way to deal when your SO is in a bad mood?
I came home & my husband is in a horrible, mood. Doesn't want to talk, kiss, converse, or anything. Wants to be left alone & started cursing out the banks in this country/health insurance (he's European) What do I do to thwart this? Just let him be. I hate being ignored, but so does he. On his own terms of course, when I want to talk, he doesn't want to & he can be very dismissive of my feelings (I don't like it at all & have told him numerous times)...
Whilst hes ranting let him be, afterwards or another time when he's calm tell him what you've told us and that your upset by this.
I'm the same in the sense that I don't want to talk about it or left alone when I'm in a mood ( I don't rant or take it out on her ever just bottle it up ) and I get more annoyed if she was constantly asking " what's up " or " lets talk about it " sort of thing. ( not saying you are just an example. )
But I'd soon realise that it's effecting her and stop or at least chat about it with her. I'm sure once you've told him he will do the same
You're not responsible for his emotional state, so you don't "thwart" anything. You just... let him be and disengage (which is not the same as ignoring). He however should not take anything out on you, and should be taken to task for that. I do not understand the last part, are you saying you expect him to talk and listen to you when he's going through this funk?
Location: Fort Bend County, TX/USA/Mississauga, ON/Canada
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Originally Posted by Londoncowboy30
Whilst hes ranting let him be, afterwards or another time when he's calm tell him what you've told us and that your upset by this.
I'm the same in the sense that I don't want to talk about it or left alone when I'm in a mood ( I don't rant or take it out on her ever just bottle it up ) and I get more annoyed if she was constantly asking " what's up " or " lets talk about it " sort of thing.
But I'd soon realise that it's effecting her and stop or at least chat about it with her. I'm sure once you've told him he will do the same
Sigh, thank you. Right now he's in another room & I'm doing some work...sigh I hate when he closes up like this it makes it feel like it's my fault....& he sometimes says hurtful things too
Location: Fort Bend County, TX/USA/Mississauga, ON/Canada
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Originally Posted by EmoLair
Is this an everyday thing?
You're not responsible for his emotional state, so you don't "thwart" anything. You just... let him be and disengage (which is not the same as ignoring). He however should not take anything out on you, and should be taken to task for that. I do not understand the last part, are you saying you expect him to talk and listen to you when he's going through this funk?
Not at all. I just wish he would talk to me about what he's thinking, but I know he's a man & doesn't want to communicate all the time....
Sigh, thank you. Right now he's in another room & I'm doing some work...sigh I hate when he closes up like this it makes it feel like it's my fault....& he sometimes says hurtful things too
I'm really sorry you're going through this .
I don't know where you are or what time it is but I'd go out for a walk or something until he calms down. It's not your fault ( it sounds like she's just blowing of steam ie $$$/healthcare bills etc ) so please don't blame yourself. I never once blamed my ex or any girlfriend for MY moods as it wasn't their fault
How long does he usually stay in these moods?
Again Im truly thinking of you right now
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